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BM GIFT--Help

Ladies--I am losing my mind trying to decide on what to get my girls...I have tired to think about verything possible but my brain is fried.This is what i have so far

BM AND MOH shirts
Paying for makeup for wedding day
Ear rings for the wedding day.


Was thinking of getting them Robes but i can't think of anything else....Help
Mrs-Flawless-Pitts

Re: BM GIFT--Help

  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_bm-gift?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:400Discussion:fe8a6c59-a135-476e-9cdc-18362af0ec38Post:cebc904c-79e2-41ec-acaa-95bb33bda5d5">BM GIFT--Help</a>:
    [QUOTE]Ladies--I am losing my mind trying to decide on what to get my girls...I have tired to think about verything possible but my brain is fried.This is what i have so far BM AND MOH shirts Paying for makeup for wedding day Ear rings for the wedding day. Was thinking of getting them Robes but i can't think of anything else....Help
    Posted by flawlessfay[/QUOTE]

    <div>I'm taking the approach of shopping like it's their birthday or Christmas.  I thought about their hobbies and interests and took it from there.  I'm getting my girls things that are more personal and suited for them.  For example, one of my BM loves to cook and shop, so I'm getting her this cute apron that I saw in this catalog that had a funny quote on it, and also a gift certificate to coach since she's obsessed with the company.  I am paying for their makeup for the wedding, but I'm not considering that to be a gift.  This is just my personal opinion, but I think that paying for makeup and jewelry for the wedding, or having shirts that say BM or MOH aren't really gifts for them.  They're things that are for you for your wedding.  Don't hate me saying this <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-embarassed.gif" border="0" alt="Embarassed" title="Embarassed" /> </div><div>I think what will help is if you take "bridesmaid" out of the equation and shop for a gift like it's another occasion.</div>
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_bm-gift?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:400Discussion:fe8a6c59-a135-476e-9cdc-18362af0ec38Post:7ac80063-3b90-4795-abde-611d0aba76df">Re: BM GIFT--Help</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to BM GIFT--Help : I'm taking the approach of shopping like it's their birthday or Christmas.  I thought about their hobbies and interests and took it from there.  I'm getting my girls things that are more personal and suited for them.  For example, one of my BM loves to cook and shop, so I'm getting her this cute apron that I saw in this catalog that had a funny quote on it, and also a gift certificate to coach since she's obsessed with the company.  I am paying for their makeup for the wedding, but I'm not considering that to be a gift.  This is just my personal opinion, but I think that paying for makeup and jewelry for the wedding, or having shirts that say BM or MOH aren't really gifts for them.  They're things that are for you for your wedding.  Don't hate me saying this    I think what will help is if you take "bridesmaid" out of the equation and shop for a gift like it's another occasion.
    Posted by kiyamurph[/QUOTE]


    Thanks so much honey, you helped me out a lot
    Mrs-Flawless-Pitts
  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_bm-gift?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:400Discussion:fe8a6c59-a135-476e-9cdc-18362af0ec38Post:96af1e55-b91c-4258-b9e2-cc6f41835169">Re: BM GIFT--Help</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: BM GIFT--Help : Thanks so much honey, you helped me out a lot
    Posted by flawlessfay[/QUOTE]

    <div>Ok good, you're welcome.  I was afraid that I might have offended you.</div>
  • edited December 2011
    In the past when I was a bridesmaid I was given a really nice candle with a picture of the bride and groom on it. I know it didn't cost much but it was nice and I was thankful. I've also been a bridesmaid and didn't receive a gift at all. But at the end of the day i didn't care.

    Don't rack your brain about it. It is only a gift and the fact that they are your BMs means they care about your big day. What ever you decide will be fine.
    Wedding date July 7, 2012
  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_bm-gift?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:400Discussion:fe8a6c59-a135-476e-9cdc-18362af0ec38Post:96af1e55-b91c-4258-b9e2-cc6f41835169">Re: BM GIFT--Help</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: BM GIFT--Help : Thanks so much honey, you helped me out a lot
    Posted by flawlessfay[/QUOTE]

    I did the same. I had a bridal party welcome gathering and had them fill out surveys of some of their favorite things. This took away the whole going crazy over BM gifts thing.
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