My FI is an atheist baptised Anglican, and I am a deist, but I was raised Lutheran and I am really comfortable with the Lutheran (ELCA) church. My FI was raised in the UK and so the "church wedding" is what everyone does! Thing is, over there, the "credentials" aren't nearly as strict (baptisms, attendance at the church, etc.) Also, he's not as comfortable with the readings and such, but likes the traditional vows. We considered an Episcopal church, but it's very expensive if you're not a member, and requires the FULL Book of Common Prayer ceremony with no changes.
So, I guess what I'm getting at here is what the heck do we do for a ceremony? Write one? Have an alternative type idea like a handfasting? We just want the words to be meaningful for us and those attending. ANY ideas would be super helpful!