This wedding planning is driving me crazy and it's still over a year away. I'm Korean. My FI is Indian. I'm from Seattle. He's from San Jose. We both live in Sacramento but neither of us want to get married here. My parents want an american/korean wedding in Seattle. His family wants a whole huge Indian wedding in San Jose. We just can't afford it. But more importantly, it feels like it's quickly becoming my culture vs his culture, my family vs his family. I don't want to upset anyone but by doing so, I'm just getting more and more upset to the point that I almost don't want a wedding at all. I would love to have the whole thing up in Seattle, but he has tons of family coming from India and he doesn't think it's right to expect them to travel twice. But then, how can I turn around and tell my family that we expect them to travel but not his? Does anyone have any advice?