I've been going by Juliet on all the bridal sites because I just want the same experience as any bride would have, despite my gender! Even though my lousy home state of California isn't allowing me to have a legal wedding - I'm still havinga giant wedding just the way I've always planned since I was a little boy enacting it with stuffed unicorns and a chuppah made from toilet paper tubes. Here is for a list of your favorite gay-friendly (but not outright gay themed) wedding organizing websites. Love The Knot, but my favorite of these in design and ease so far is
Weddzilla. Your profile there is also a scrapbook to organize your ideas, and there are all the local vendors and tools you need. Plus it's just pretty.