I'm straight, but identify as REALLY gender queer. I am a super tomboy and proud of it. I like carrying my pocket knifes and wearing my baggy sweatshirts and I think I'm gorgous. Around age 18 just putting on a dress/skirt made me cry and I didn't want to be controlled by that so I've been slowly working my way to at least having the flexibility to wear whatever I want and rock it.
I'm now 32, MUCH more gender fluid, I own a couple dresses/skirts, but it's a HUGE emotional effort to move from feeling ridiculous to feeling pretty while dressing up in 'girl drag'. Once I cross a threshold and am dressed up I usually forget how hard it was, but it's still a struggle. I want to wear a dress at my wedding because I want to feel like a fairy princess. :-) Well, maybe wood nymph. That's my vision. I like playful dresses that feel joyous and carefree and whimsical. That's the feminine style I'm most comfortable with and the one I've built the wedding plan around (10 people total, outdoors under a cherry tree).
But now I'm struggling with the actual finding or custom ordering a dress. I hate shopping! I find it very hard to fit my body. I think I'm gorgous naked but can't pull that off for my wedding. :-) I did a bunch of fruitless shopping, I tried to sew something myself but have become disheartened, and now I keep breaking down crying and worrying I won't feel pretty and I won't feel OK and I'll feel like I'm wearing a costume. My fiance is amazing and will support me in any way. I just want to hear that other people have felt this way and I'm not crazy and it'll all be ok.