i am blue today...and most days

catwine

warning: this post is kind of a downer!!




lately i've been feeling sad and kind of lonely, like eeyore.  i'm not sure why and that bothers me!  i have a great fiance, i have a good job (i don't like it but its a job), i'm healthy, etc...
i don't feel like i have a purpose right now and am kind of just existing.  my job is unfufilling (covering a mat leave as an admin assistant) and doesn't pay as well as i'd like;  i don't really have close friends (my bffs live far away); we don't have a home church yet; i still live with my family so i dn't really have my own space at home; my cat doesn't love me (so pathetic, but true!! haha).

everyday i leave a home i can't wait to be out of forever to come to a job i dread...it's sad.  any advice?

ElisabethJoanne

Casual advice:
1. You might be bored. A lot of women kind of plan their lives around finding "the one" and getting married. Now that you've found him, and may be expecting to be a SAHM, you may feel you don't have any big projects to tackle. So, find one or create one. Learn a foreign language. Find a periodical you like, and see if you can write a submission. Volunteer. Try a new hobby. Take a class at your community center. Do something wedding-y that's unnecessary, like making your own favors. Change your exercise routine.

2. Eat more dairy and chocolate. They're proven mood-boosters.

3. Get more exercise.

4. Get more sleep.

Serious advice:
It could be a mild depression. There are medical and behavioral treatments. Mental illness is like any illness - not your fault, and it won't get better by sheer will power. Today's treatments for mild depression have better success rates than the treatments for most "real diseases." Start with your general practitioner, but consider seeing a specialist.

catwine

thanks for the advice.  I had bouts with sadness, lonliness and cynacism (spelling?) as a teenager but i chalked it up to my dad leaving.  i'm long over that so maybe I do have a mild form of depression....a doctor is a good idea:)

peachykeen26

I would seek personal couseling, or talk to your doctor about it. It can clear up a lot of things.

I agree with PP. Maybe you should try to work out more, this is usually a god mood booster. Drink some citrus drinks, orange juice, etc. This helps me sometimes because of the high sugar content.

Are you on birth control? This may have some effect on your mood to.

RebeccaJac

Vitamin B! 

Start volunteering with something you're passionate about. It'll get you out of the house and give you some purpose. 

AshNoel8

I agree with PP's! Try new things or do things you love. And remember, you are getting married in 3 months! Woooo! I'll say a prayer that you find peace and draw joy from Jesus.    

iamjoesgurl

During your quiet time, spend time writing down a few things you have to be thankful for each day. Then pray that God will open your eyes to new things that you have to be thankful for. (As you go through your day, you'll probably see people in wheelchairs which will remind you to be thankful for mobility or older people who remind you of the blessings of youth, etc.) When you focus on how God has blessed you, it should be easier to be positive.

Another thing is to pay it forward and do something for someone else each day (like open a door for a mom pushing a stroller or give a few extra dollars in a tip to a waiter/waitress or bake cookies for your co-workers, etc.). It is such a good feeling when you've done something for someone else.

Also, I agree with the recommendation to talk to someone about it - someone who is a professional and can offer real solutions.

joe&cassie

I agree with everything previous posts have said.  I'm going to advocate the exercise and diet route.  I started really watching what I eat and going to the gym 3 days a week.  My mood has drastically improved.  I find myself less irritable with people I couldn't stand in the past.  I'm more productive on those days.  I am better at watching what I say to my FI and find myself being less grumpy at him.  My FI is in a wheelchair right now and it really put a strain on our relationship.  It's not so bad anymore.  The bonus is that I am losing weight. 

Also I agree that you should talk to a counselor or doctor.  I had one in high school that really helped me.

DramaGeek

Counseling is the best thing I ever did for myself - both times.

Exercise does help me, but if it's true depression it might take more than sheer will power to pull yourself out of it.

catwine

thaks for the advice everyone:)   i am on birth control but this feeling was here long before the pills.  i think i do just need something to do that will make me feel fufilled.  last night i made some food to give to my fiance for lunch and dinner today and i felt so much better!
joesgurl: thats some good avice:)

mattycam

I hope your blue (cloudy) days turn into yellow (sunny) days!
I agree with what pp have said from seeking professional help to volunteering. You do have a purpose christinavy and I pray that God reveals it to you so you can fulfill it!

catwine

thanks mattycam:)

LeahVB2011

I have suffered from bouts of depression for about 10 years. I find that turning to God definitely helps but it's also not letting yourself go there. H and I haven't made any friends since we moved last year and really haven't found a church home (we were members of a church for 6months and left about a month ago). It's definitely not easy. I can't really offer advice because I feel everyone has said it so well but I can encourage in saying that the days do get better.