I'm not even sure where to begin with this...I've mentioned it a few times in passing on the board, but I don't think I've ever given the full story.
I have this friend. She was my "best friend" all through middle and high school. When I got engaged, she went sideways. No congratulations, no asking about about plans, just jealousy. It's been the same through my entire engagement.
I chose not to have her as a bridesmaid. This friend is controlling and opinionated and I knew the best choice was to not include her in the bridal party. I chose to have just the siblings (my sister and his two brothers) so that way she didn't feel like I was choosing other friends over her.
I was continuing to put effort into the friendship until Thursday. Thursday night we got in a fight about how she's losing me as a friend because I'm getting married and that she hates my FI. She called my FI creepy (I mentioned he has slight aspergers), said that our wedding isn't a "real wedding" and that it's "a joke." She said I have no real friends because everyone talks about me behind my back.
I called FI really upset. I was at the apartment two and a half hours away, alone, and couldn't calm down. The next day I informed my parents and grandparents that I was done trying to be her friend and she probably wouldn't be at the shower or the wedding. (She was helping plan the shower with my grandma)
Today, during my dress fitting she texts me saying she wants her money. She's overdrawn in her bank account and she needs to pay a deposit to the ministry school she's going to. So, I offered to hold the fundraising money in my account so that she doesn't have to deal with her bank problems. I informed her that I couldn't get it out of the ATM (because the ATM has a $200 withdrawal limit) and that I don't plan on giving it to her. I said I would mail it. She said she needs it today and that it can't wait.
Her family is now blowing up my phone with messages and calls and my Facebook. My shower starts in three hours and I wouldn't put it past them to show up...I just don't know what to do anymore...