Dear Amy: I had an older sister who was physically and emotionally abusive to the entire family for years.
I finally disowned her after she suggested I should commit suicide when I was depressed because of a painful divorce.
I never regretted cutting her out of my life and I never allowed her near my children.
This sister died recently, and people are offering their condolences. I am not mourning her death. I mourned that I was unfortunate enough to know her.
Some of the people who have written to me are requesting to be in touch with me. I don't know most of them, and I don't know what to say to them.
Should I just ignore them? If I don't ignore them, what should I say?
They seem like nice people, and I am sorry that they are mourning the loss of someone they would probably have shunned if they had known what she was really like.
How should I respond?
— Not Grieving