WDYT?

loveshine1

Background: One of my best friend's cousins is knocked up for the second time. She had a baby boy about 5 years ago and is now having a girl. She really wants a shower because the first time she was pregnant she was really young and didn't get to enjoy her pregnancy because she was embarassed.

The issue: Best friend's sister and cousin are all in a tizz because they want her to have a shower. They have both been harassing their mom's about them throwing her a shower. Both of the mom's say no. One doesn't believe in baby showers at all, and the other doesn't agree with showers for a second baby.

I said to best friend that if those 2 have such a hard on to throw her a shower, then they should go ahead and do then. Of course, that's not an option.

So now mother to be is throwing herself a shower.

WDYT?

TheDuckis

I agree with you. Why isn't sister and cousin throwing the shower an option?

If she didn't have a shower for the first baby I'm not going to begrudge her a small, tasteful celebration for this one. But if she's inviting a gazillion people or registering for extravagant things she'll get a side-eye.

**O-Face**

I think it's tacky, but not the first time I've seen it done.  I guess a registry that is shared would be a better way to go.  If people wanted to buy her stuff, but it's still tacky.

loveshine1

They don't want to spend the money on her shower. They want their mom's to do it.

She had a shower for the first kid, and then threw all the crap away as soon as she was done with it. Apparently, half her registry has already been purchased, so she'll still be getting plenty without the shower.

MrsMyrtle

As long as she doesn't call it a "Sprinkle," I don't see a problem with it. I hatehatehate when beebees call it a "Sprinkle."

LnR70707

why the hell do the sister and cousin need parental permission?  are they 12?

edit: I this is tacky.  Just because she messed up the first time doesn't mean she gets a do-over this time.

jojobrn

I don't understand why the sister and cousin aren't throwing one either.

This is tough, because I know that second showers are generally tacky, but if she truly doesn't have anything left over from her first child, a tasteful shower wouldn't seem abnormal to me. I know my sister will be starting over when she and her husband have their first kiddo together, besides my niece being 6 now, she didn't move any baby related items they may have had left with them, no room on the moving truck. And really, the only things left over at this point are clothes.

loveshine1

Oh these are grown ups. One cousin is a year younger than me, so she's 27 and the other is probably 25 or so.

I don't have a problem with someone throwing a smallish shower or luncheon for the mom to be. I just find it outrageous that these 2 hookers can't pull it together and do something for her.

I think Wz hit it on the head - they want to stand up for her, but don't want the responsibility of it.

DG1

I can forgive a small tasteful shower when there's a 5 year difference and baby is a different gender.

Hell, I'll tell ya, mine were 13 months apart and the same gender, and we didn't get to reuse nearly as much stuff as I thought.  So the "she already has that" isn't a valid counterargument.

But yes, these two clowns need to do it themselves.  And mom is tacky and dumb for throwing her own shower, yes. 

baconsmom

What a pack of rude, entitled people. How did those mothers manage to raise those kids?

May Bacon never embarrass me with shenanigans like this.

GBCK

I could probably forgive 90% of this crap...while still thinking it's crap.

But throwing your own?
Yeah---NO.
THat just lables you badly right from the get go..."I haz kidz, give me stuff because I had kidz"