I've been engaged for a year and for multiple reasons unable to plan my wedding until now (budget, work, family issues, etc.). But it's time now. I am from Charlotte, NC & my fiance is from Wilmington, NC. About 4 hours apart. We both have huge families in each of our towns. And both of us feel that if we didn't have the wedding in our home town only our immediate family would attend. We want a bigger wedding with more than just that but either way one of us is going to be unhappy with the crowd turn out. My parents are offering to pay for the wedding if we have it in my home town. My fiance got really upset about that offer. Seems like I can't discuss my wedding with anyone without them trying to force their wishes on me. We can pay for the wedding but is it really going to be worth it? We're leaning towards having it in Wilmington because I think more of my family would be willing to travel than his. My fiance is driving me crazy because he's more than willing to have the wedding anywhere, but he's adamant that he'll only have immediate family & closest friends (at most 10 people) if we have it anywhere other than Wilmington which would make me feel terrible. I even suggested having it halfway between our two cities and he still claims they won't travel the two hours. I think a lot of my family would travel the two hours as it's not entirely so far away they would have to spend the night. I have no idea what to do. I'm tempted to just have it in Wilmington and if my family doesn't want to travel then fine! The bad part is my if my family didn't travel, it would be for health or financial reasons. His family not traveling is because they're homebodies. I'm probably rambling and making no sense but I have no idea what to think about any of this. I suggested taking our parents on a cruise and getting married there. Cutting out everybody but them. He didn't like that idea either. If we did get married in Wilmington, my mom would still throw me a shower in my home town. So I would still kind of get to celebrate with my people. I'm so confused.......