OK, this'll prolly be a long rant b/c I'm pretty p.o'd right now!
So, the BoG, whom I've never met & my FH hasn't seen once in our entire 6-1/2-year relationship, decides he's gonna rsvp by inviting someone to come with him.
Now that wouldn't be a prob except for two huge things:
1. I've never met the guy and during this time w/his bro I've only heard about how he's an active crack addict/alcoholic who (in the past month) got kicked out of the only place that would have him, is now in a halfway house, and is panhandling for a living. NICE! <rolls eyes />
Note that he's been in "recovery" from addiction in the past but continually 'relapses' -- meaning, he's basically a junkie who occasionally stops & goes to meetings.
[Also note, I've got 24-1/2 years clean & sober so DO understand that whole cycle--but DO NOT want it to be a factor at our wedding!!]
2. Our venue, a lovely restaurant in the Hyatt Regency where we're having the ceremony, has a section for us with exactly 41 seats. We invited 49, had 5 declines, 31 accepts (not counting the bro) and 13 we're waiting on. Obviously it's VERY TIGHT and his bro was told this. (ok, guess we're not the 1st thing on his mind... <again, rolling eyes />)
As it is, I only have 1 friend that gets to come, FH has 2, the rest are immediate family on both sides--and my father is paying for everything. His family has given us a whopping $300....tho they can well afford whatever they want. We, on the other hand, are scrapping & trying to stay under $5K total!
Let's not mention that the bro doesn't get along with any of his stepparents who'll be there and is not exactly my first choice of who I want at our special day--but now he wants to bring along his "Sponsor", a guy who he only calls when he wants something--and someone neither of us know.
FH says it won't seem right getting married w/o his bro there, but that he feels it's the only way his bro will come is if he can bring someone HE's comfy with.
I'm sorry, isn't it OUR day? Doesn't the bro get enough attention every other day of his life without injecting his drama into ours???
I don't care if I'm being a Bridezilla about this as it's just another thing with his family (there've been plenty other dramas w/them before this) & sure, they'll be my in-laws soon, but don't I get SOME say about who should/shouldn't come?
Thanks for listening!