So I have a dilemma I was hoping to get some advice on. I am pretty sure I already know the answer, but thought I would throw it out there. Or if anything I guess just vent a little. I have a friend, who at one time was one of my closest friends, but is now more of an on again off again friend that is bent out of shape I have not included her in my wedding.
Background: Two years ago (when we were closest), I was her MOH and unfortunately due to her Bridezillaness, our friendship took a horrible hit. (Very long story short) Since then, we have tried to patch things up, but we have never really been the same. Some of this is due to lifestyle changes for both of us, and new found friends and interests. Since her wedding, the only time I seem to hear from her is via a text message or E-mail (once or twice a month) complaining how I have dissappointed her as a friend because I am choosing to spend time not partying with her, but spending time with my daughter and FI. She has even gone as far as to say that by my choosing to spend time with my family is leaving me misrable. I have called her multiple times to get no response, inviting her to functions or even something as simple as lunch but get no response... until the "dissapointment" e-mails. I guess my lower key spending time with friends and family are not quite as exciting as her drinking and partying.
Current: My friend is upset that I have not asked her to be my MOH or for that fact any of my BM. My BM consist of my daughter, my sister, and a very longtime close friend (whom I have been friends with for longer than I have with the upset one). Oh I forgot to mention part of why she is upset is that she assumed that she was automatically the MOH because I was hers. I didn't ask her to be a BM due to our current on again off again status, and that we are just not as close as we used to be.
Was I wrong in not including her? Should I create a spot for her just to make my life easier? I think honestly no matter what I ask her help with, it will not be good enough, as she has already complained about every decision my FI and I have maid about the wedding. One of her biggest complaints was that I was being silly for including my 11 year old daughter in my wedding (funny since she was a BM for hers). Anyway, any advice out there? If not that's okay... all in all thanks for letting me vent a little!
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