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ha!

recall this.

another response:

Dear Amy: "J" wrote to you that she loves to ask strangers about their race.

Should we feel free to indulge our curiosity by approaching strangers and asking their gender? What about their sexual orientation? Age? Marital status? Religion?

Why not if they're pregnant or HIV positive?

One way to test whether satisfying one's curiosity is rude is to consider what would happen if the tables were turned. Imagine a white person's indignant response if a nonwhite stranger asked his or her race.

Your advice to the always-curious J should have been, "Mind your own business."

And the polite response when strangers ask about your race? "Human."

— Barbara


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Re: ha!

  • hmonkeyhmonkey
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    edited December 2011
    i think the next time someone asks me "what" i am, i'm just going to ask them how much money they make.
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    Do white people ever get asked if they are white? Interesting.

    Whte People, what says you?
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  • ReturnOfKuusReturnOfKuus
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    edited December 2011
    *sigh*

    Yes.
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  • ReturnOfKuusReturnOfKuus
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    Only by blonde women, though.  Blonde women seem to have trouble telling the difference between dark-haired white people and Southeast Asians, for some reason.
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  • HeffalumpHeffalump
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    In Response to Re: ha!:
    Do white people ever get asked if they are white? Interesting. Whte People, what says you?
    Posted by NOLABridesmaid
    I've never been asked, probably because it's really obvious in my case.  If I were any whiter it would probably hurt your eyes to look at me.
  • edited December 2011
    Kuus, really?

    I'll add this to my "the more you know" file.
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  • ReturnOfKuusReturnOfKuus
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    It's a weird phenomenon.  I look no parts anything but white.
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    I've gotten asked but more in a "so where is your family from, Whitey?" sort of way. Never a "what are you?" way.
  • HeffalumpHeffalump
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    Only by blonde women, though.  Blonde women seem to have trouble telling the difference between dark-haired white people and Southeast Asians, for some reason.
    Posted by ReturnOfKuus
    FIL has trouble telling the difference between black people and south Asians.  And Italians and black people.  He still thinks DH's Italian BFF (who was his best man) is black.  He's not even that dark, his family is from Northern Italy.  But FIL thinks my Sri Lankan friend (who was also in our wedding) is black, too.  Shrug.
  • **O-Face****O-Face**
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    Wow.  Apparently I am decidedly white.

    Oh, and I've never asked anyone "what" they were.  How is it relevant?

    I put these questions up there with "when are you having kids!?!?".  F*ck.
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  • zsazsa-stlzsazsa-stl
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    I have never been asked if I am white before, but probably because I am as white as can be.
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    I just a friendly gal looking for options.

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  • hmonkeyhmonkey
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    when dh and i had our bet about the % of asians in our building, he pointed out a woman and said, "asian!" and tried to mark it down in his column.  lady was hispanic.
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  • 6fsn6fsn
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    edited December 2011
    I've never been asked and I've never asked. 
  • mscalibridemscalibride
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    In Response to Re: ha!:
    when dh and i had our bet about the % of asians in our building, he pointed out a woman and said, "asian!" and tried to mark it down in his column.  lady was hispanic.
    Posted by hmonkey
    The mental image I get from this is hilarious!
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  • tawillerstawillers
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    In Response to Re: ha!:
    I've never been asked and I've never asked. 
    Posted by 6fsn
    This.

  • edited December 2011
    People would ask if I'm biracial because they were confused by my white last name and I don't have a very dark complexion.
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