Not really sure where to post this or even if I'm doing it right but here it is..
I don't know how to handle my future MIL!.. I have been with my FH for 6 years and she has made it known I'm not welcome. She invites his ex gf to every family event - Christmas dinners, etc. He was in a bad accident several months back and I was actually kicked out of the room so the ex gf could have time to visit him!! My FMIL pulled me aside and told me that I need to get over my jealousy and that I have never been liked.. She told my FH that if he marries me then he is the one that has to deal with me. The more we ignore her, the worse it's getting. A few weeks ago, she locked me out of their house. The ex and I never liked each other but we tolerated each other. Now, I have the ex gf's mother saying stuff and the girl's friends picking fights at the bars with me and my FH. My FH and I are in agreement that this is out of control, BUT it is still his mom and I know it would crush him if I chose not to invite her to the wedding. (He has gotten upset when I suggested not even inviting her)..I'm seriously concerned that she will go out of her way to ruin our big day though!! .. I have always wanted a family and friends wedding, but we are on the verge of eloping over this. We have an amazing relationship, except for this issue, and it's enough to make me rethink even marrying him. Is there a chance she will behave herself, let us have our day, and realize I'm not going anywhere and stop all this nonsense already? I'm usually a very vocal person but I try to control it with her so she doesn't take it out on him! .. Did I mention she has gone as far as to threaten to kill his dog by poisoning it?.. She has been on meds for depression but refuses to take them or seek help for any of her issues. So it's not just me being overly sensitive.