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Some Perspective

Hi Ladies,

I just wanted to share a thought with you all as you're planning all the details for your weddings.  My FI went in for her annual OBGYN appointment this week and they found a large cyst with a nodule on her left ovary.  She had blood work done to hopefully (fingers crossed) rule out cancer.  We are told there is a possibility that she has endometriosis.  While not great, we'd take that over cancer any day.  We've been told that if that's the case, though, pregnancy down the line may be more difficult.  Either way, she will need surgery to have it removed.  

One week ago we were bickering over the size and type of font to use on our Save-the-Dates.  Today we are getting results back from blood work and we hope she does not have cancer.

It got me thinking about all this wedding stuff and put things in perspective.  Suddenly none of these "small" things matter.  I've already confirmed to her that I don't care if she ends up with no hair and has to be wheeled down the isle and I have to kneel to be at eye level with her (I joked we'd save money on her hair trial and day of hair do).  I don't care if instead of our Colonial-preserved historic cathedral, we exchange vows in a hospital, I WILL be there at the alter and I will marry the love of my life.  

If you're religious I ask that you pray for good news for us.  Regardless, please keep in mind the point of all this and try not to sweat these details.  In the end they don't and won't matter.  Keeping things in perspective should be a "check" throughout this whole process.     

Re: Some Perspective

  • Sending T&Ps and postive Knotties vibes to you and your FI..you are absolutely correct..in the grand scheme of things it's just a wedding that lasts what?? 6-7 hours??....The marriage, commitment and love you have is THE most important part of it all and that should always be the MAIN focus. 
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  • Hey Brood, Thanks for sharing your thoughts and reminding us of why we do all this in the first place. Like Bliss said, sending so much positive knottiness over the waves to you and your FI. Keep us updated, and let us know what we can do to make this time a little easier if we can. Love love love

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  • Prayers and good vibes your way!
  • Brood, please tell your FI we'll all be praying and thinking of her. I really appreciate what you wrote and I definitely agree with you. My fingers are crossed for good news from the doctor.
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  • we are all thinking of her and you are such an amazing person to be thinking so positively and being so great to your fiance :).  I wish you two the best of luck!!  
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  • Hello ladies,

    Thank you so much for your prayers and well wishes.  After a couple tense days and restless nights we found out today that her blood work came back normal and that she does NOT have cancer.  We are so extremely relieved and thankful.  She has to see a specialist next week though because the next tests they need to run will reveal if she has endometriosis.  We are just so happy to find out that it's not cancer.
  • In Response to Re: Some Perspective:
    Hello ladies, Thank you so much for your prayers and well wishes.  After a couple tense days and restless nights we found out today that her blood work came back normal and that she does NOT have cancerWe are so extremely relieved and thankful.  She has to see a specialist next week though because the next tests they need to run will reveal if she has endometriosis.  We are just so happy to find out that it's not cancer.
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    That's awesome news!
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  • your support to your fiance must mean the world to her. As someone whose college bf ended a relationship literally the day I was diagnosed with cancer, I admire your devotion. (I am now in remission.)
     
    After you learn more about your fiance's health, I hope you don't beat yourself for focusing on small details though. Everyone nitpicks small things to deal with stress, and if you guys deal with the stress of living by only bickering over font sizes for a party invite, I suspect you will live very happy lives together. Congrats on your engagement! I hope you enjoy every moment, all the details, all the head butting over stupid stuff, all of the crises, and especially all of the moments of joy. Best wishes to you both. :-)

    PS-- I bet she still wants a different cake flavor than you do. ;-)
  • Yes! So relieved that it's not cancer!

    ccb - congrats on being in remission! I hope your scumbag ex rots in hell ;-)
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  • Brood, that is great news!  Still sending best wishes your way!!

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  • Thank you all so much.  She won't be able to see the specialist for another week so we're still on hold for now.  We will be up in Philly for her cousin's wedding this weekend though.  It'll be nice to see our families again and be in the city.  NC is home for us by now but it's nice to go up and get a decent sandwich!  Anyone ever been to a wedding at the Warwick? 

    Funny story, the morning after we found out it wasn't cancer, she told me she'd be OK using the font I liked for our Save the Dates at almost the exact moment I was going to tell her that I was OK with the font she wanted to use (we're going with her font) :).  Afterwards we went and did our registry.  I always pictured it being somewhat torturous but, given the circumstances and what could have been, I enjoyed every minute of it. 
  • Haha, that's great.  I will try to compromise with the FI tonight about not needing the schmancy invitations I want....I will bring both of your compromising skills (and perspective!) to the table tonight.  :)

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