I really dont know what to do, and thought some outside advice might be good. A little background, FI is her only son and she wasnt too thrilled about us getting engaged because she thinks we are too young. I am 21, he is almost 23 and we have been together 4 years and living together on our own for three.She really wants us to have a big traditional fairy tale wedding. Neither of us are into that and want our personalities to reflect. His parents are paying for the venue and DJ and mine are doing Catering and Photography. We are having a budget wedding for 10,000. FI and I are very into music and we want a rockabilly themed wedding. Its not going to be too much though. Are main things are, boys wearing converse with their tuxes (we are getting their nicknames sewn into them and this will double as their gifts.), a white 3 tiered cake with black music notes cascading down the side, flower girl in a polka dot dress (our colors are red, black and white.) and walking down the aisle to a non traditional, but equally beautiful Something Corporate song that means a lot to us.Ok now here is the thing. I have searched high and low at what feels like every bridal store around here, and cant find my dream dress. I decided a couple months ago that I am going to get a vintage recreation wedding dress designed by a vintage dress store owner and designer who is extremely reputable. FMIL is freaking out over this. Everytime anyone brings up the wedding she has some snude comment about how im going to end up hating it. I already told her if I do, I will go buy a sample off the rack somewhere. I am taking a chance because this is what I want. Well at my birthday dinner on Sunday, she started in on it again and it made my mom really upset. My mom loves this idea too and is very excited about it. She then remarked to my FI how she wont dance with him at the wedding if he is wearing converse. Then she said that we are treating a wedding like its a joke with all of our "ideas." Im getting fed up with it, my moms feelings were hurt now too.But whenever I say anything all I get was, "thats way she is and the way she has always been."First she freaked that she wasnt being included enough, now that I am trying my best to include her in anything and everything, she ends up making me want to cry. Ugh what would you do?
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