December 2009 Weddings
Question: FMIL and Rehearsal dinner
Ok ladies, I have been reading all of your crazy FMIL stories, and I don't know if this one will live up to them, but am am soooo frustrated right now, I could just....scream! lol I just want some honest opinions...Do I have a right to have input on my own rehearsal dinner? My Future in-laws are footing the bill, but my FMIL thinks that since they are paying for the whole thing, that I shouldn't have anything to say about who is invited. I have told her NICELY numerous times that we would like a smaller, more intimate affair...just for the people involved in the wedding (bridal party, grandparents, parents, etc.), and that will be at the rehearsal. You wouldn't think this would be too big of a deal....wrong. She is making excuses to add a lot of her friends and family that are not in any way involved in the rehearsal or wedding day besides being guests. She is making this a party for her instead of for us. She also wants to pick and choose out-of-towners to invite (who knows how many! And all from her side...) . We have a block of rooms reserved for our out-of-town guests at a hotel w/ a restaurant, bar, pool, etc...so I know they would be perfectly comfortable doing dinner there. I have told her that I do not want all these extras, and what I wanted was a smaller affair to thank the people involved in the wedding...not to have the whole world there! Every time I bring it up, she says she is "disappointed" that I have brought it up again, and in an email I just got, told me to "let it be."....she doesn't care one bit what I think! And now I just found out she is going Wednesday to finalize things with the restaurant...without even confirming a menu with me or asking my opinion! She just wants complete control over the whole thing! I am probably more upset about this because she has done alot of things in the wedding planning process to piss me off... Am I wrong to have an opinion???