Are you and FI/DH a PERFECT MATCH!?

happywithhim715

Saw this on FB today and figured I would see how my DH and I match.... I am the first born, he is the last born... We WORK!

http://www.mydaily.com/2011/02/07/birth-order-relationships-linda-blair/

First-born with last-born: Opposites really do attract! First-borns are nurturers and caretakers, and last-borns often need to be cared for, so this match finds its perfect opposite.

FutureMrsTCT

We're the same as you Happy. Although he's very nurturing so I'm not sure that the opposites attract. But in the what doesn't work category was first born, and only child. And for the record, it didn't for me. Dreaded Ex was an only child....

Madam A

Middle child and first-born: If you're with a middle child, you've hit the jackpot. Middle children tend to be able to get along with both first-borns and last-borns. But any pairing does still require that both partners respect who the other is. An overbearing first-born should be on her best behavior around a more docile and malleable middle child.

This is exactly us!

miguelhilary2010

According to this, yes.

Only child with last-born: This is a good match because last-borns tend to inspire creativity and freedom in only children.

caraellen23

We are also first born (DH) and last born (myself) and we work.  However, thinking back, my exes were mostly first borns and those matches didn't work.

[Deleted User]

No we are a horrible match.  

I read a book years ago about birth order and I was just talking about it the other day with FI.  We are both first borns.  Oh well.

Bride_to_be_2011

What about first born and only born? haha. I am first born, he is an only child.

miguelhilary2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_pennsylvania-philadelphia_fidh-perfect-match?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:105Discussion:89ec2136-3e48-4e39-8c63-b7b842a7f065Post:ac305b3f-9102-4eb5-a1a7-aabe7eaa2579">Re: Are you and FI/DH a PERFECT MATCH!?</a>:
[QUOTE]What about first born and only born? haha. I am first born, he is an only child.
Posted by Bride_to_be_2011[/QUOTE]

<strong>What Doesn't Work</strong>

<strong>Two first-borns: </strong>Conflict is likely if you're highly competitive and both want to be in charge. It can work if you can channel your competitive drives outside of the relationship.

<strong><font color="#ff0000">First-born and only child:</font> </strong>Ditto for this pairing, which may exhibit many of the negative characteristics of a first-born match.

Bride_to_be_2011

Oh yea I just looked. sorry I jumped the gun. and DUH. this is stupid... I am going back to writing my thank you notes. ha.

paprika28

Yeah... I've never believed these. FI and I are both First Borns. ExH and I were opposite- I was FB, he was LB. We saw how that worked out...

mana8503

Middle child and last-born: A great match because middle children aim to please and will support a last-born's desires to pursue their dreams.

He's number 8 of 9 kids, and I'm the baby...

ooodsie

I'm only and DH is first.. but we don't fit that description at all.   However, when I think back to ex's that failed miserably it was because they were also all first borns and DID fit it to a tee.  

Northstar1808

same as you happy!

jelybeancg

I am first born, he is last. That description sounds like us

Amerbutt81

Only child with last-born: This is a good match because last-borns tend to inspire creativity and freedom in only children

this is the conversation that followed with JEGs:

me: hey did you know that we are a good match because I can inspire creativity and freedom in you?

JEGs: what do i do for you?

me: you make me awesome grilled cheeses

amy727

Two middle children: Middle children are a good match because of their combined diplomacy and desire to please, but they should be careful of being too deferential to each other.

LaRositaMonita

Apparently I am nothing, as I am my mom's first-born but my dad's second.  My dad had split custody of my big brother with his first wife, so truly there were times when I was very much the oldest sibling of the family and times when I was the middle child. I better go file the divorce papers now! 

rachelk456

I'm first born and he's last. We fit the description to the extreme.

DianaM27

We are both first borns so according to this article we dont' work...however we work really well together. I think he has some last born/only child tendancies, cause he's the only son, but is a first born at heart! My mom is a last born and so is my sister and those last borns drive me crazy! Another thing is that my Dad is a first born and my Mom is a last born and their we're NOT a perfect match (divorce proves that..haha) So as in everything there are exceptions.

I also noticed this in my class, I usually get along with my first born, middle born students much easier than the last borns.  I think birth order also can have a lot to do if you're the first/only boy in a family or the first/only girl in the family.

Stacylynn702

Two middle children: Middle children are a good match because of their combined diplomacy and desire to please, but they should be careful of being too deferential to each other.

He's 3rd out of 4
I'm 4th out of 5

I think it works b/c we're both from bigger families therefore, we're used to not getting any attention  
I don't really get the desire to please part.  I'm like that to an extent but he doesn't give a crap what other people think.

carli1216

When I saw your post I immediately thought of Rodney Dangerfield in "Back to School."  Rodney Dangerfield's Quote: My wife's a water sign. I'm an earth sign. Together we make mud.