I was wondering if you could share your experiences with them... what they were like, what kinds of things you were asked, etc.
We are getting married in the church because it is important to FI and even moreso to his mother. I'm not thrilled about it. Though I was raised Catholic, I do not currently practice, as I largely disagree with the teachings of the church. (I'm pro-choice, pro gay marriage, pro contraception, premarital sex, etc.) I'm afraid that the priest is going to ask about my beliefs and if I'm honest about how much I disagree with the church, he'll refuse to marry us. FI doesn't believe in everything the church teaches either, but he still identifies himself as Catholic, whereas I do not. I'm really not into religion at all.
We are planning to have our children go to CCD and receive the sacraments, so that they have the option the practice the religion when they are adults. For that reason, it's probably best that our marriage be recognized in the church. Although come to think of it, my parents' marriage wasn't recognized by the Catholic church for most of my childhood (mom was previously married and didn't have it annulled til later) and I was still able to go to CCD and receive the sacraments.
I'd really appreicate some insight into what goes on at Pre Cana, what exactly the Foccus survey entails, what things will be asked, whether I should say I believe in certain things even if I don't, (which I'd obviously rather not do.)
I posted a much longer version of this post on the CW board, but I was interested to hear from people who might not be quite as religious as well. Thanks guys!