We've been together a little over 6 years now and I'm not sure if this is just cold feet or if I'm about to make the biggest mistake of my life. Don't get me wrong I love my fiance and I have a hard time imagining myself actually breaking up with him. I don't ever want to break his heart. That being said, I feel like I'm a cheater waiting to happen!
This is something that I've been finally able to admit to myself. I've been doing some soul searching the past week and I have this strong urge to go see what else is out there. I've been in contact with some past heart throbs and it's made this feeling even worse.
The only real relationship I've had and the only person I've been with intimately is FI. I thought I was OK with this. It's been my intention my whole life to only be with the one person that I marry (I wanted to wait until I was married but that didn't pan out lol). I'm kind of regretting this decision now... Or maybe I just think I am?
I keep reading articles on the internet about deal breakers and red flags but there are so many opposing opinions. Once I get calmed down by reading one article I read another and it freaks me out again. I will have to admit there are some red flags but they make me feel superficial.
Take for example
I make more money than FI but my idea of a husband is one that takes care of me and is superior in that way. FI has always wanted to be that way but he won't take initiative even if I push.
I don't think he's ugly but I certainly don't find him as attractive as I did originally and even in the beginning I wasn't like OMG he's so hot. I also just started to realize that I am not bad looking. I never had the opportunity to date with good self esteem...
Sometimes I feel like we both don't care what eachothers saying.
There are more but then after thinking about the bad things I think things like
He takes me for who I am and puts up with my crap.
I love him.
I can see our future together with children
I want to stay, but I also want to leave. I would feel awful breaking his heart though. Especially since he'll be turning 29 this year and I feel like I'll have wasted his 20's to find the right person for him to start a family. He so wants a family. He'll be a really good dad. I just don't know if my thoughts are normal or abnormal. I'm scared. Maybe it's just I'm freaking about giving up my singledom permanently because I don't believe in divorce. But then, will I be short changing myself?
EDIT - Also, what if it's the biggest mistake of my life to leave him? What if I lose the best thing that's ever happened to me?