October 2010 Weddings

For ppl doing seating charts instead of escort cards...

I am havin a dilemma. Because my wedding is going to be so huge (470ppl invited) I am doing a seating chart because that's just WAY too many cards to do escort cards.  Now I know on escort cards people usually do one per couple or family or whatever.  With a seating chart, it goes alphabetically... my issue with that is that I have many guests who are couples with different last names or families with different last names for the parents and children.  How are you going to place them on the chart if their last names are different?

Example #1: FI's Aunt is divorced and engaged with a daughter
Aunt - Cheri "Jones"
Aunt's FI - Bob "Rock"
Aunt's daughter - Grace "Smith"

How would I put them on the seating chart? FI says to put them ALL under J for Cheri "Jones" then add Bob "Rock" & Grace "Smith" in parenthesis next to her name.  So it would look like this:

Ms. Cheri "Jones" (Mr. Bob "Rock", Miss Grace "Smith")

But I feel like that's wrong.  He says also for couples who live together that have different last names to put them under the males last name the same way.  Do you think this is acceptable?  If not, what should I do?
Erika & Joel
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Re: For ppl doing seating charts instead of escort cards...

  • I would, personally, put each individual person under the proper header for their names if you're doing it alphabetically.  I feel like your guests would figure out that it's alphabetical and look under the proper letter?
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  • In Response to Re: For ppl doing seating charts instead of escort cards...:
    I would, personally, put each individual person under the proper header for their names if you're doing it alphabetically.  I feel like your guests would figure out that it's alphabetical and look under the proper letter?
    Posted by xoxpipahxox
    I agree.  This is how we're dong our chart.  Alphabetical by last name for each individual person. 
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    I would, personally, put each individual person under the proper header for their names if you're doing it alphabetically.  I feel like your guests would figure out that it's alphabetical and look under the proper letter?
    Posted by xoxpipahxox
    That's what I feel like I should do but FI and my dad both said that's stupid... however, they are just silly boys so who knows. LOL
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    In Response to Re: For ppl doing seating charts instead of escort cards... : I agree.  This is how we're dong our chart.  Alphabetical by last name for each individual person. 
    Posted by Galaxy8227

    I also agree!
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  • I agree with Laura. Or maybe try

    J
    Ms Cheri Jones ............................ Table 4
              Mr Bob Rock
              Miss Grace Smith
  • Tell your fiance and Dad if they are so Hell-bent on doing it their way, then they can make out the chart! ;)
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  • http://www.seatingboards.com/

    This is the company that we are using for our seating charts.  Our videographer owns it.  Maybe you can show this to FI to give him an idea of what the chart will look like with the names listed alphabetically by last name. 
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  • Melissa - I know, I don't even know why I ask them anything!

    Jen - I have a chart template and I've showed him what it looks like. All I have to do is plug the names in at this point but I'm just trying to figure it all out.

    It just seems weird to me to put a 12 year old girl on her own line instead of with her mother ya know? But maybe I should just suck it up and do it.
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  • I'm doing everything by last name as well.  Even the people who I don't know (like my friend's plus ones... I told them I want the names of their plus ones) because I hated going to a wedding only to be seated as "Fi's Guest"
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    I'm doing everything by last name as well.  Even the people who I don't know (like my friend's plus ones... I told them I want the names of their plus ones) because I hated going to a wedding only to be seated as "Fi's Guest"
    Posted by aleanette
    I totally agree!  I want to know all the names of the people attending my wedding. 
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    In Response to Re: For ppl doing seating charts instead of escort cards... : I totally agree!  I want to know all the names of the people attending my wedding. 
    Posted by Galaxy8227
    Definitely. I know most of them already, thank God. I only have a couple people who I'm not sure who they are bringing but if they don't write it on the RSVP card, I will just call them.
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  • I'd just go by last name.  They can be at the same table, of course.  I would look for *my* last name.
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  • In Response to Re: For ppl doing seating charts instead of escort cards...:
    I'm doing everything by last name as well.  Even the people who I don't know (like my friend's plus ones... I told them I want the names of their plus ones) because I hated going to a wedding only to be seated as "Fi's Guest"
    Posted by aleanette
    For spouses or S/O of friends, I'm listing it alphabetically under the friend's name  (i.e.  Jane Doe lives with John Smith and together they have a son Robert Smith.  Jane is friend of bride therefore I would list it as Jane Doe (3) - Table 4)
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  • I like how nycegrrl99 suggested it.

    We are doing escort cards, but we were planning on doing them per couple (originally we were going to do a favor per couple).  I think if people don't see their last name, they know to look for their partners.  My fiance and I obviously have different last names, usually whoever is the one who is friends with the couple, we look under their name first since the other would be the guest.  May not be proper ettiquite, but it seems a little easier to me. 
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