Any young Catholics on here? Interfaith weddings too?

kolache3

Hi! I am 21 (will be 22 when i get married) and I am marrying a non-Catholic but he totally fits with my moral beliefs and is very supportive. I was just wondering if there are any younger brides on here or anyone in an inter-faith marriage.

amber&19

I will be turning 21 a month before I get married. My fiance and I are both Catholic but I didn't join the church until just a couple of years back. It's certainly surprising. I always dreamed of this day but I never thought in a million years, I'd be a married woman at 21! I wouldn't change it for the world, even with the struggles we've already had. Our love is so beautiful and we are so blessed. Congrats on your engagement dear!

kolache3

Thank you! Congratulations to you too! I also didn't think I'd be getting married so young but my fiance is everything I ever dreamed of and more.

hvcfringe

22 now will be 23 at our wedding. He is 26 will be 27 so it is really weird. I just came into the church thos last Easter and he was definitely a big reason for leading me into something so amazing.

kolache3

your age difference isn't weird, it's the same as mine.   My fiance is 25 will be 26 at our wedding and i'll be 22

Oh man I've just gotten done reading about dispensations and all that stuff...to think i won the Catholic trivia contest 3 years in a row and never knew i would need a dispensation to marry my fiance

bibliophile2010

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[QUOTE]your age difference isn't weird, it's the same as mine. :)  My fiance is 25 will be 26 at our wedding and i'll be 22 Oh man I've just gotten done reading about dispensations and all that stuff...to think i won the Catholic trivia contest 3 years in a row and never knew i would need a dispensation to marry my fiance :/
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The dispensation to marry a non-Catholic is pretty readily given. It is more a formality of paperwork in most cases, so I wouldn't worry about it too much.

I'm not young, but I would give you all the same advice I would give any young bride. Take your time, enjoy your engagement, pray a lot. Some young marriages work wonderfully, many don't.

Riss91

"young" is subjective

MedStudent13

My fiance and I will be 22 when we get married in a year and a half :-) I have definately found much more support from my friends in the Church and from our families than I have from my other peers about our age.

catarntina

I was 26 when I got hitched. Everyone at work said I was too young to get married.

Imagine their surprise 6 months later when I got pregnant.  "You're too young!"   So yes... "young" is subjective

kolache3

why would 26 be too young? I don't understand that at all! Congratulations on your marriage and baby

Riss91

I know people that think 30 is too young.....  but I also know 30 yr olds that aren't mature enough for marriage and 20 yr olds that ARE mature enough!

ingeniousidea

I'm 23 and will be 24 at the wedding -- FI is the same age (born 26 hours after me!) and we're both Catholic.  We've gotten a couple of comments that we're "too young" to get married, but we're both financially independent and stable.  I'm older than my mom was when she got married! 

Kolache3, have you discussed the faith your children will be raised in with your FI?  I know that is an issue for many interfaith couples so be sure you are both comfortable with what you decide!

GeorgiaPeachMarie

I was (and am) 22 when I got married in June. My DH was 24 (and 25 now). We were kind of interfaith in that we were both Baptists and converted in college so our families were not Catholic and we were. It took a lot of compromising to get to the altar but we're married now and very happy. I agree that young is a relative term.

jmorford

i'm 21, and H is 22.
oddly enough, no one ever told us we were "too young"

kolache3

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[QUOTE]I'm 23 and will be 24 at the wedding -- FI is the same age (born 26 hours after me!) and we're both Catholic.  We've gotten a couple of comments that we're "too young" to get married, but we're both financially independent and stable.  I'm older than my mom was when she got married!  Kolache3, have you discussed the faith your children will be raised in with your FI?  I know that is an issue for many interfaith couples so be sure you are both comfortable with what you decide!
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<div class="Discussion_PostQuote">I'm 23 and will be 24 at the wedding -- FI is the same age (born 26 hours after me!) and we're both Catholic.  We've gotten a couple of comments that we're "too young" to get married, but we're both financially independent and stable.  I'm older than my mom was when she got married!  Kolache3, have you discussed the faith your children will be raised in with your FI?  I know that is an issue for many interfaith couples so be sure you are both comfortable with what you decide!
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Yes, we have discussed it from the beginning and I know it is really important. He doesn't belong to any specific religion but he isn't an atheist or anything, he has great morals and our beliefs are extremely similar on nearly everything. We are going to raise our children Catholic and we are both going to be involved in their spiritual upbringing. That's why its really hard for me to deal with this dispensation thing. I understand that its just paperwork but I feel that the church is saying that there's some problem between us when there isn't. I don't feel that there isn't any "disparity" between us on a spiritual level. It doesn't make a case for his conversion either...he doesn't like the rules and structure of organized religion and that's why he doesn't want to belong to one.

Also, I was raised in an interfaith marriage and it didn't cause any problems, so I get kind of touchy when people try to discourage it. My dad is Catholic now, and that made me very happy, but even if my dad would have never converted everything would still be fine.

coffeeismylyfe

I am 20 and my fiance is 23.  We are both Catholic, but there is no one else our age in our parish.  I think I struggle a lot more with that than he does since he grew up in this parish and I didn't.  I'm just now starting to finally meet people besides his family after three years of going here.  They're all old enought to be my mother though!  Not that that's a bad thing, I'm just saying that it would be nice to have some fellowship with Catholics my own age.

caitriona87

We're young--have been married 2.5 years now but were just shy of 22 at our wedding (birthdays are three weeks apart.) We had a few people telling us we were too young, but both sets of parents were quite young and have/had successful marriages. My parents got married at 21 and it ended with my dad's death 34 years later. My in-laws have been married for 26 years now.

hannah--I live in a city where pretty much everyone is not just old enough to be my mom, but my grandma. (Florida! Lol.) The only active young adults group in the diocese I know of is specifically for singles, so that's out. 

coffeeismylyfe

Caitriona - ditto the singles group, I'm tempted to just show up as a couple so we can at least meet some people.  But I really don't know how well recieved that would be.  Plus, I think even most of the single people are in their thirties. 

Despite all my complaining, I do really enjoy my friendships with the women I have met that are my mom's age.  They never treat me like a 'little one' and I am very greatful to them for that.  They are always happy to celebrate life's milestones with me, even if they have already passed theirs.  We really enjoy our time together! 

kathleenkmm

I'm not as young as you (28) but I will be having an interfaith marriage - my fiance is the son of a Lutheran minister.