Urgh, someone please help!

kszydloski

I completely understand where you're coming from on this and I'm grateful for the support and comments (even if I don't agree with everything). Since you're familiar with this having come from the Church you did, can you tell me where annulment is referenced in the bible, and how an annulment allows someone to re-marry - just for reference?

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[QUOTE]ksz, the divorce is not the sin.  Sometimes marriages don't work.  Divorcing someone and then marrying someone else without getting an annulment IS a sin (having grown up in a church where divorce+remarriage was just unheard of, I could probably still rattle off the chapter and verse where this comes from).  I think that's what Resa was referencing. Please don't feel like you can't vent to us, but please also understand that you might hear some things you don't want to.  For instance, if you decide to just have a JOP ceremony, you will be told that that is not the right thing to do.  We're very supportive, but we're also very in love with our faith, and we want all Catholics (and everyone) to be living in accordance with God's will.
Posted by professorscience[/QUOTE]

professorscience

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[QUOTE]I completely understand where you're coming from on this and I'm grateful for the support and comments (even if I don't agree with everything). Since you're familiar with this having come from the Church you did, can you tell me where annulment is referenced in the bible, and how an annulment allows someone to re-marry - just for reference? In Response to Re: Urgh, someone please help! :
Posted by kszydloski[/QUOTE]

<div>Haha, I just made a separate thread asking this question because I have no idea and I didn't want to hijack your thread!</div>

kszydloski

Okay, great! I'll follow the thread!

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Urgh, someone please help! : Haha, I just made a separate thread asking this question because I have no idea and I didn't want to hijack your thread!
Posted by professorscience[/QUOTE]

Resa77

No worries, ksz!  It can get confusing on these threads.  And I totally understand being a little more sensitive than normal when under a lot of stress.  I'm definitely that way!!

pretzelgrrl

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[QUOTE]So I'm getting married next August - August 3, 2013 to be exact. And as you probably all know, being newly engaged all I want to do is start planning, planning, planning until my eyes become crossed due to staring at the computer screen looking for ideas for WAY too long! We've set a date, booked a reception hall and a photographer.   I'm Catholic and so is my fiance so I had just imagined and assumed that we'd get married in the Catholic church in my hometown in Michigan where my family has also been attending for years and years. Problem is my fiance has been married once before and never had the marriage annulled. So, what does that mean for us? It turns out, we're not allowed to get married as Catholics until it's annulled and we've been told that it could take anywhere from a year-and-a-half to several years costing a lot of money. So it's looking like if we want to get married within the next five years (or so) we won't be able to get married in the Catholic church. My mother is going to flip! Has anyone been through a similar situation? I'm heart broken to be honest with you. I'm happy in my faith and wanted to be able to take my children (one day!) to church and if we get married by let's say a minister at an outdoor ceremony in the eyes of the Catholic church that will never happen and is unacceptable. Please help with any advice on how to tell my family, what to do, etc. Any help is greatly appreciated!!
Posted by kszydloski[/QUOTE]

   Hi...I went through this same situation...unfortunately, I was unable to get married in the catholic church due to the fact that it would take such a long time (we had some serious reasons why we could not wait a year or more) and we were unsure if his marriage would be annulled.  I get how you feel because I was also heartbroken and I know was a little hard on my mom that we had to get married in a unitarian church (she understood and of course loves me but it was tough).
  My advice is if you can go through the process and wait so you can get married in the church because it sounds very improtant to you and your family.    Call your vendors and ask about pushing days back.  You still have some time so you maybe able to get the anullment and not have to change your date but talk to the vendors to know their policies. 
  I hope everything works out for you and you are able to have the wedding of your dreams.   Good luck <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-laughing.gif" border="0" alt="Laughing" title="Laughing" />