I know that etiquette says you should not invite people to the ceremony and not the reception, however here is my situation:
We are getting married in a Catholic church - which requires Pre Cana. This church does things a little differently - we have to meet with a 'Mentor" couple 5 or 6 times over the next year. We have workbooks that they go over with us, etc.
We just had our first meeting with them, and they mentioned that they attended the wedding ceremony at the church for the last couple they mentored. They did not mention if they attended the reception.
I don't think they expect to be invited to the ceremony or reception, however I do think it would be a nice thing to invite them to the ceremony. (Since they are members of that church, they know the priest, and we will be meeting them numerous times over the next year in preparation for our wedding!).
I think it would be silly to invite them to the reception because they would not know anybody except for us.
So my question is, would it be ok to just invite them to the ceremony?
And should we send them a formal invitation, but leave out the Reception card?
or should we just verbally tell them the time that the ceremony is taking place? (They obviously already know the date). I thought maybe at our last meeting I could ask if they planned on attending the ceremony, or tell them we'd love it if they could come.. that way it is a little less formal then actually sending the invite.
Help!!
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