My FI and I are not religious and we've had a couple offers to officiate the ceremony. One friend's dad is actually a Shaman and has offered to do our ceremony for free. He married our friends and did a beautiful job but my parents and coworkers have told me that's weird and said it seems unofficial. Our other offer is from a Federal Judge that I work with who would also do it for free. He doesn't know us as well but I've heard he does a great job and that would definitely be a more traditional route. What do you guys think?