Hi ladies,
I'm sorry to rant about this, but I'm out of ideas and I don't know what to do. My fiance and I are getting married in July and my very generous parents are paying for the wedding. Because of this, we're trying to keep the wedding as simple as possible. They understand that since my FH is in grad school in Washington, all of our money is going toward the cost of moving, flights to see one another and student loans.
Three weeks ago, my maid of honor called and ranted for a good twenty minutes about how expensive it was going to be to come to my wedding all the way from Chicago. She was listing the flight (for her and the boyfriend I can't stand but was inviting because she loves him) and cost of a dress and gift as the primary expense. I told her that her gift would just be showing up! I also told her that as for dresses, all I cared about is that they're gray, but they could be any style and price they wanted since my bridesmaids are all so different. She then announced that at least theywould be staying with me which would take care of the room and food. This was the first I'd heard about it!
We're leaving for Washington two days after the wedding and my small one bedroom apartment will be in boxes (and probably on a moving truck being shipped to our new city) a week before the wedding. I told her I was really sorry, but it wouldn't be possible for her to stay with me since there really wouldn't be any furniture at my apartment. I offered to help her find a place to stay with one of my relatives or an affordable hotel.
She ranted for another twenty minutes about how much this was going to cost her, and how exasperating all of this was. I suggested that maybe, she could stay with her boyfriend's family at their house, and there was more ranting. I didn't know what to do so I said she didn't even have to buy a dress, I just really wanted her there. I told her she could stand with the other bridesmaids or sit with the rest of our friends and family and just be in the pictures. That's when she hung up on me. I realized she assumed I was uninviting her from the bridal party, so I called her right back and tried to explain that it wasn't the case, but that I'm not in a position to help her financially and she had turned down all my other suggestions. She hung up on me again.
She hasn't returned phone calls, texts or im's in three weeks. I've apologized several times for the misunderstandings over countless messages and I keep asking for her new address. This morning, I wake up to a text that said, "I've been busy and we won't be coming. If you'd like a gift, you can let me know where you're registered."
What am I supposed to do? I've been vacillating between fury and tears all day long and I don't know what to do. Any suggestions?