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Hosted vs No host bar...

Need your input. Trying to decide between 2 venues for our wedding (Spring 2012), can't decide! Dubsdread with a NO HOST bar or 310 Lakeside overlooking Lake Eola in downtown and we'd be able to have a HOSTED bar. Dubsdread is nicer, but we can be very happy with either one.   What would you do?? Thanks!

Re: Hosted vs No host bar...

  • edited December 2011
    hosted bar--even if the selection is limited. i very rarely have cash on me. also, since the reception is the "thank you" to your guests, i don't think it's right to expect them to open up their wallets for refreshments.
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  • sarah42ndsarah42nd member
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    edited December 2011
     I agree with Tasha and I dont even drink. I didn't have a bar at my wedding . But  either  have a hosted bar or no bar at all.
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  • edited December 2011
    The only reason we are even considering a cash bar is because it is a second wedding and we are asking for no gifts.  But still, leaning toward the hosted bar anyway like you have recommended just for etiquette's sake.
  • Britt1406Britt1406 member
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    edited December 2011
    If you did Dubstread would it be possible to have beer/wine only and not a full hosted bar? People aren't always prepared (with cash) at weddings for a cash bar, so if there is going to be alcohol there, it's good to at least provide something.
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  • edited December 2011
    At Dubsdread you can indicate what type of alcohol (i.e. beer and wine only) for the open bar. I'm doing an open bar up to a certain amount then it turns to cash. I really do not think my guests will mind since it will be family and close friends. They are there to celebrate our wedding, not their drinking. Go with the venue over the bar. I'm getting married at Dubsdread, it is beautiful.
  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_florida-central-florida_hosted-vs-host-bar?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:66Discussion:9a802db7-c9b3-472f-af93-a400f238b599Post:f834e987-94c2-4bfd-a817-ff77ab7c5f8c">Re: Hosted vs No host bar...</a>:
    [QUOTE]<strong>The only reason we are even considering a cash bar is because it is a second wedding and we are asking for no gifts</strong>.  But still, leaning toward the hosted bar anyway like you have recommended just for etiquette's sake.
    Posted by Mish&Tony[/QUOTE]
    i don't understand the connection? the reception is a thank you to your guests for attending your wedding ceremony. people give gifts because they want to. either host the bar or don't have one. either register for gifts or don't. (please don't put "no gifts" on your invites)
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  • sarah42ndsarah42nd member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_florida-central-florida_hosted-vs-host-bar?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:66Discussion:9a802db7-c9b3-472f-af93-a400f238b599Post:581400ab-fbd2-44f1-9612-53a732326b50">Re: Hosted vs No host bar...</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Hosted vs No host bar... : i don't understand the connection? the reception is a thank you to your guests for attending your wedding ceremony. people give gifts because they want to. either host the bar or don't have one. either register for gifts or don't. (please don't put "no gifts" on your invites)
    Posted by tasharocks[/QUOTE]



     I agree with Tasha . Gifts are not mandatory . So you cant tell people to not give gifts.  Now you could not accept them but that's your deal. You can have a  bar with just beer , wine and  a signature drink.
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  • lcollazo38lcollazo38 member
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    edited December 2011
    at dubsdread you can have a open bar and when the dollar amount runs out you can add more or turn into a cash bar. I plan to have a open bar for the cocktail hour only and turn into a cash bar. it is something that with dubsdread that you can save up extra cash all they way up untill your wedding day and put it torward the open bar.
  • edited December 2011
    I completelly agree.  Saying "no gifts" may offend some people (when I am attending a wedding, I like to give gifts! It is a celebration after all!).  However, not registering could take the pressure off giving extravagent gifts, if that is what you are intending to do.
    As for the bar, remember this wedding tidbit.  Only spread yourself to where you can take care of each guest as you want to.  Don't have 100 guests get 80% treatment, wittle it down to 80 guests and give them 100% treatment.  If you can't afford a full bar for everyone, take it down to beer and wine, or a signature drink.  Guests shoudn't have any financial obligation at the reception, beyond tipping the bartender.  I think cash bars are incredibly tacky.
  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_florida-central-florida_hosted-vs-host-bar?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:66Discussion:9a802db7-c9b3-472f-af93-a400f238b599Post:7cc29aab-4f21-4c9f-9396-c4d43ac1e22e">Re: Hosted vs No host bar...</a>:
    [QUOTE]I completelly agree.  Saying "no gifts" may offend some people (when I am attending a wedding, I like to give gifts! It is a celebration after all!).  However, not registering could take the pressure off giving extravagent gifts, if that is what you are intending to do. As for the bar, remember this wedding tidbit.  Only spread yourself to where you can take care of each guest as you want to.  Don't have 100 guests get 80% treatment, wittle it down to 80 guests and give them 100% treatment.  If you can't afford a full bar for everyone, take it down to beer and wine, or a signature drink.  Guests shoudn't have any financial obligation at the reception, <strong>beyond tipping the bartender</strong>.  I think cash bars are incredibly tacky.
    Posted by daynalouise[/QUOTE]
    guests shouldn't tip the bartender. the bride and groom should take care of that and tell the bar staff not to have tip jars/refuse all tips. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-smile.gif" border="0" alt="Smile" title="Smile" />
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  • SarahSmile23SarahSmile23 member
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  • edited December 2011
    Thanks for the input.  We have decided to go with the place we can afford to provide a hosted bar on Lake Eola in Downtown.  Don't worry... we will pay all the gratuities for the bar as well!
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