I'm not sure how to approach my boyfriend about this...hoping I can get some advice / reassurance.
My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over 4 years. We've been very relaxed about everything, just letting things take their course and not forcing anything. In the past we've talked about getting married; usually the subject comes up after we've attended a friend's wedding together and we discuss what each of us thought would be better for us as a couple when we are married. Friends have joked with us light heartedly because we are the last of our group to be in a relationship without being married. So we are quite open and casual about the subject with each other and friends when it comes up, but that's not very often at all. Usually when we talk about our future together, it's very matter-of-fact: "when we have kids" "once we're married" "when we buy a larger house" etc.
I don't like pressuring him about taking the plunge at all. I always feel like I'm being "that girlfriend" because I'm prodding him about getting married, and I genuinely don't feel like I need to rush into anything at all. However, my boyfriend is absolutely terrible at surprises, does not like planning surprises, and is not in the least creative. I've joked with him before that I'll probably wake up one morning with a ring on my finger and he will be in the living room playing XBOX like nothing happened, and that will be that.
So here is my issue: how do I tell him that I don't expect a lavish and well-thought-out proposal, and quite frankly would prefer to go ring shopping together when he's ready and call it done? I don't want to bring it up out of nowhere because then it's obvious I've been thinking about it and could come off as pressuring if I don't word it right. I'm just not sure how to approach it! Help!!