My dad has this issue where no one is good enough for me. It goes beyond the typical dad and it's way worse that the "Meet the Parents" type story. My dad actually makes up stories in his head and believes they are real and is then convinced that he hates the person I'm with. He was in a big fight with my mom on her birthday last September with my dad about my now fiance. Basically made up some storey about how I told my dad that my then boyfriend didn't like him and other things. Yeah, my dad has some mental problems (that doctors refuse to admit are there).
Anyway, I was engaged 2 weeks ago and while everyone knew, we held it from my dad. My brother asked us to keep it from my dad until his job started at the end of the month so he didn't have to be there when the "war broke out" between my dad and mom (yup, they're still married). My mom finally broke and told my dad yesterday. His reaction wasn't good. He went off on my mom about how he wanted to divorce her but felt bad for brining her to Canada (she's from the States). Then went on about how he couldn't believe this was happening, etc etc.
I'm not sure how I should handle it. My MOH told me that I should speak with him, but my dad just ignores my calls and emails. He has refused to talk to me in the past when he was upset like this, and I'm sure it would be the same.
My dad seriously wouldn't be happy unless the man I was marrying was extremely rich and well educated (doesn't matter if he treated me like crap, beat me, etc....and I'm 100% serious...my dad's priorities aren't in order). My fiance has a decent job and makes a good paycheck, but it's not good enough for my dad. My fiance treats me very well, but it's not good enough for my dad (he doesn't care about how my significant other treats me).
I'm upset because this is supposed to be a happy time for me and my family and my dad is bringing everyone down. I've been trying SO HARD to not let it interfere, but it has been a huge stressor. He probably won't be at my wedding even. And if he does go, he will bring the mood down, unless he has a big change of heart between now and then.
Is there anyone else who is or did experience this?? I'd love some advice