We recently got engaged on August 24th 2010.
My Fiance' surprised me on our 10th anniversary with a Le Vian Chocolate Diamond engagement ring.
I will admit at a glance it doesn't scream "I'm engaged" but I also don't think it looks like a standard fashion ring.
For me, it was love at first sight, especially since I was at the point of being willing to accept a fruit loop, LOL
But after a few not so encouraging comments, including those from my Fiance, I'm starting to feel my long term non-traditional desires might have been a poor choice.
I've talked about getting a Le Vian chocolate diamond engagement ring since 2008, when my Fiance gave me my first Le Vian piece for Christmas, it had chocolate diamond accents. Before being introduced to Chocolate diamonds I wanted the long sought after Canary yellow diamond, pretty much anything to be different and stand out.
But only a week after our engagement my Fiance randomly stated it's definitely not the ring he planned to get me but he wanted to make me happy. He doesn't feel it "looks" like an engagement ring but if i'm happy he's happy.
Which immediately caused me to be very concerned.
Even though I know it's my ring, my choice.
The mere thought of him paying a hefty price for a ring he doesn't care for really bothers me.
My brother (whose opinion I value more than anything else in the world) even suggested for future argument sake, we should at least go look at more traditional rings.
So by week two of being confused, we decided to take a trip to the jewelry store and look. Well that trip caused a huge fight because my Fiance got very defensive about me possibly returning "my first engagement ring."
I tried to explain to him, I love my ring and only wanted us both to be happy but the damage was already done.
After leaving the jewelry store , not talking for a few hours, and me breaking down in tears, we decided to have a serious talk about "the ring."
I explained to my Fiance , I wanted a ring that we both felt represented us and our union. If he didn't feel this way about the ring he got, "just to make me happy" , than I think we should mutually select a ring.
So with us both in a more reasonable state of mind, we decided I would look around and once I found what I liked we would go look at it together, then make a decision.
Well needless to say we've been engaged for almost a month, and I truly just can't find anything else that captivates me as much as the ring I have now.
I love being different and when I try on "traditional rings" I don't really think they fit my style or individuality.
The traditional rings I find that I do get the "that's my ring" feeling from are almost double the price of my Fiance's original purchase. My Fiance keeps saying he doesn't mind paying more for our comfort but we just purchased a house a few months ago, and I would feel selfish adding additional financial burdens now.
I thought time would run out and we would just get past "the ring" issue but
my Fiance recently reminded me we only have 2 months left if we are going to exchange my ring, which shows he still thinks about it.
So my question, after my long winded story, LOL
is what do you ladies think?? please give me your honest opinions...
Is my ring to trendy?? should I go for a more traditional engagement ring??
Here's a picture of my current ring.
Its white gold, Chocolate Diamond Center stone, with White and Chocolate Diamond accents, made by Le Vian.
I honestly don't even feel the picture does it justice. Total weight is 1 1/2 carats.
Need serious advice.
HELP!!!!
~~~~WOW~~~~
You ladies are amazing!!!!! I can't thank you ALL enough for giving me such deep, insightful, and much appreciated feedback!
and here is an ~~~UPDATE~~~
I never thought I would see or find another ring that I loved more than my first.
Well on Saturday my FI surprised me with an upgrade and it was love beyond first sight.
He got up before me and had a custom setting created.
He told me, in his heart although he gave me the ring he knew I would like, he wanted us both to loveeeeee my ring for years to come and if he couldn't find it, he would have it made.
Keep in mind,
I thought we were going to pick up my original ring (because he originally said , he just took mine in that morning to be cleaned)
Well, when we got to the jewelry store, the jeweler came out with a completely different ring, I even said,
"Sir, I think you made a mistake, that's not my ring" LOL
and as I looked back at my FI, he was down on one knee in front of EVERYONE and popped the question all over again, adding with "Our ring"
I said yes, yes, yes, and at that point realized, I guess I'm more traditional than I thought because it wasn't a fancy color diamond, and I didn't need to have that "different" feeling, the only thing that matters is we are FINALLY getting married, so any ring will be "our ring" but since he went though all this additional trouble, that's not something I will ever mention
My FI even had the jeweler add a piece of my old ring into the new setting so I could always have apart of it with me.
What more can a girl truly ask for but a happy marriage!!!
And last but not least.....
Here's a pic of the new addition....
I have to say, I don't mind owning an engagement ring that, screams
"I'm engaged" ... LOL
Thank you, thank you, thank you.....
Nothing but good wishes and love to you all!