Hi there,
So I'm in a particularly sticky situation. My fiancé and I have been together fiancé October, living together since November, and engaged since January. I am 18 turning 19 in June. He is 21 turning 22.
My parents are divorced. I live with my mum, step dad, and both siblings. They are all very aware of my engagement and the entire progression of my relationship. I wouldn't say they were excited, but they all support my fiancé and me. This side of my family is very open minded and non-traditional. They also know that I did decide after applying to college and seriously considering going due to my other side of my family pressuring me, I have withdrawn and have no intention of going to post-secondary. It has nothing to do with my engagement.
My father's side however, is extremely traditional, pushing for me to go to college, and are completely unaware of the whole situation. They all have been introduced to my fiancé, but do not know that we are engaged, or have been living together, or that I decided that i wasn't going to school. They don't know the age of my fiancé either.
I have not told them any of this information because I feel they will disapprove. I have had a very rough patch with them, I had not spoken to them for six months before December because of them pressuring me about school. They don't take my job seriously because I'm classified as part time, even though I get consistent raises and work a minimum of 30 hours a week, every week, and work 39 a week from May to September. I want to tell them about my decision, my relationship situation, and my engagement as soon as possible.
How do I go about this without offending any of them or having them blame my fiancé for my decisions?