I am so unsure what to do about my last name when I get married. I've had the same last name for 41 years and it is a real part of me, BUT I want to be mrs. hislastname. I really do not want to hypen my name and have thought about using my maidenlastname as my middle name. I think what's really hanging me up is that I just discovered that I don't change my name on the marriage license and that when we get married although the will pronounce us mr and mrs hislastname, legally I still have my maiden name and the change would only really be something to report to ss, dmv, the bank etc... so I dont know why I can't use my last name on ss, dmv and other documents but socially go by mrs. hislastname. any ideas, opinions or just want to add your .02 cents.