My FI and I are having our bachelor & bachelorette parties on the same night. My girls told me my party will be 9/10 because they said they didn't think they could surprise me. His is also on 9/10 (his is a surprise - though he has it figured out already). THEN on 9/11 our wedding party is hosting a Jack & Jill for us. For some reason I am feeling really awkward at having a Jack & Jill. Like its gift grabby. It is not my first wedding, its my 2nd. It is his first. I don't know why I am feeling guilty about the possiblity that someone will show up with a gift at the Jack & Jill but I am. Help me see that I am being unreasonable.