What to say instead of "who gives this woman"

lynettas720

Hi, This is my first post here.  I thought that this would be a good place to get some advise.  I'm 41 and will be marrying my fi next month.  This is my first marriage and I will be having my father walk me down the isle.

I like the idea of walking down the isle with him, as a sort of support to my marriage.  However, I don't like the idea of the preacher asking "who gives this woman....." because I don't need to given to anyone.  I don't think, at my age, that I need my father to give me away. 

What are you guys doing/did do instead? 

Thanks for any advise.

Lynetta

Pepsilady

this is my 3rd and his 2nd..My father had "given me away" twice before and each time I came back.  So this time my oldest brother will be walking me down the aisle and the Pastor will ask "who gives support to Kim and Wayne?"..his answer will be "The family does"..and nowhere in the vows or anytime during the ceremony will the words "obey" and "submit" be uttered..