We just got engaged and this is the first marriage for both of us. I'm 46 and he's 40. We are paying for the wedding ourselves and lots of people have been waiting for this to happen! I'm excited but just don't want the stress. And while I want a wedding, I don't want to break the bank. We are considering a backyard bash, a beach wedding with a party at a rented house afterwards or a coastal SC wedding. I don't need a large wedding. There would be no more than 50 or so guests. And he would be happy to have just immediate family but I want more of a reception than just a nice dinner! We are checking out venues now and weighing our options and budget. I'm sure things will start to come together more once we narrow down exactly where we want to do this.