Give me away??

gnmartinjr

Is it weird that my 12 year old son has given his permission and requested to give me away?  I think it is amazing and wonderful but others have made snide comments.....

NMI

I think it is a great idea!   It's your day!

NMI

My daughter is giving me away!

tenofcups4me

Well, yes, with that phrasing, I do think it's weird. A 12-year-old can't give his "permission" for you to marry, though of course he can make his preference known and I would assume you wouldn't do anything that you didn't think was in his and your own best interest.

And the whole concept of "giving away" is bizarre to me, even when it's a father giving away his daughter. You're not your son's to give.

That said, I think "escorting" you down the aisle is really nice.

Hopefully, it's just a question of semantics and all the two of you are trying to say is that your son is very happy you're getting married and would like to be a part of it.

Kristin789

Totally agree with TEN.
The snide comments are about the phrase GIVING THE BRIDE AWAY, which of course a 12-year-old boy cannot really give away his mother and live on his own from that moment on.
So use a phrase like ESCORT as TEN suggested, and you will reduce the snide commenters quite a bit.

ski2play

My 19 year old son is ESCORTING me down the aisle.  Then he will stand beside his sister (my MOH) and be my DOH (dude of honor).  I am thrilled that they are so excited to be a part of the ceremony! 

Let them make their snide remarks.  Hold your head high.  They are probably just angry people whose mother didn't teach them to not say anything if they didn't have something constructive/nice to say.

ruta21030

i think it's lovely....while 'escorting' is better than 'giving away', he seems to feel like he's the man o' the house and is taking his 'role' seriously, and likely with tongue planted firmly in cheek....as for the snide comments, chalk that up to small minds....you've got an awesome young man there

NMI

and who would be making snide remarks anyway?

pennylg

Congratulations, that's a wonderful gesture for a 12 year old boy to make. My 17 year old son will be escorting me down the aisle and he (along with his 19 year old sister, my MOH) will welcome my new husband into the family. A little bit different than the usual traditions but it works for us and that's all that really matters.

Lisa50

Ummm, well, it does seem kind of weird to me that a 12 year old has given permission for his parent to marry.  The tradition of giving the bride away has always been offensive to me (women are not property, not someone's possession to be handed off to another, etc.).  All of that said ...

I understand the strong, emotional connection between a mother and son, so I "get" why this plan works for you.

My son, age 18, was my best man.  It worked for us.