This is the only disagreement FI and I have really had during the wedding planning (I mean aside from silly stuff, like wedding toppers!). I have an aunt and cousins who are known for causing drama at family events. I already have said my aunt will be invited, and that I will not be inviting her son, who has done some really bad stuff (stole money and jewelry from my parents while they attended a funeral, got arrested for swinging at a cop at another cousin's wedding). I'm unsure what to do about her daughter. She sent me a message on FB this morning asking when the wedding is and how she can't wait to come. Personally, I am concerned inviting her will open up the potential for drama, but I feel I should invite her. I do not want her fiance there though. He is a disaster. I presume it is bad ettiquette to invite her without him. I was wondering if I invited my Aunt and +1, then letting her decide whether to bring my cousin, if that would be ok.
The dilemma is FI is adamant I not invite cousin and wants Aunt's invite to only be addressed to her. My parents who are paying for the wedding says it's up to me, that I should at least invite the Aunt. I know I am opening myself up to hurt feelings regardless of what I do-and to add to it, there are five girl cousins, and she is the only one not in my WP, so I'm sure it will be hurtful either way.
I do love my cousin and constantly worry about her-she's a mom of two, lost both to foster care recenlty, no job, in and out of drug rhab, asks me for money all the time. But she's still family. Ugh. Kinda hoping they both move out of state soon as they have been planning and that pretty much takes care of the issue.
WWYD???
~ES~