I'm standing up in my best friend's wedding which is coming up very soon. I've known her for 17 years and she's been with her fiance for a little less than half that time. They've been engaged for a few years but have decided to plan the wedding in a few months, so everything has been rushed. He doesn't treat her well and we have all doubted that they would actually get married. She is thinking about calling it off after a comment he made saying that he doubts the marriage and his feelings for her but she has yet to do so. I've told her to end everything but she's been vague and doesnt answer the phone when I call to see how she is. I'm thinking she might actually go through with this. My question is how can I stand up in a wedding where I dont belive they should be together? IF she tells me that they are going through with the wedding, can I step down as bridesmaid? (There's only 2 other bridesmaids and the other one will not stand up. I also have my dress alreay and we gave gifts)