Okay....I need a reality check ladies. FI was put in charge of rings yesterday. So today he's talking to a jeweler he's used before and he e-mailed some ideas, etc. We began a discussion about the rings and I commented why were we getting them anyway. FI says it's what is socially conventional. Now we are not the great example for socially acceptable/conventional . We've been living together 5 1/2 years, we have a 3 year old son, I didn't get an engagement ring, I'm not taking his last name - we're not the most socially conventional couple you will meet by far. I asked him what the ring meant to him....he said he has no other reason except that it is socially conventional. I say if that's all it means then why are we doing it....because honestly the diamond ring he bought me after I gave birth to our son is what means something to me. I've never been into what is socially acceptable/conventional so if that is the only reason we're doing it ...we shouldn't. Then he says well it would be easier to do rings than explain to everyone why we weren't......now why exactly do we have to explain anything! Our friends/family know that we aren't into that stuff so why do we have to explain anything!! This discussion has taken up the last 5 hours of my life and I can't believe we are even having it! He agrees with all my points but says he had never thought about NOT having rings so he was in shock. I said I haven't had a ring in 5 1/2 years and I feel the same way...it's not about the ring, it's about the relationship and if socially conventional/acceptable is the only reason we're getting them, frankly......I don't want one. He recently had surgery on his hands (ring finger too) and the Dr. isn't even sure he can wear a ring....so again....why bother. Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr I am really worked up. Just feels like a waste of money and energy on something that truly means nothing.
Have I lost my mind? lol