Hiring a "baby"- sitter

ElizabethPine

Hey ladies, I'm having trouble trying to convince the GMs in the wedding to remain sober for the ceremony. I told them that they have a two shot limit prior to the ceremony, and after the pictures are done they can do whatever they want. But they all think it's a big joke. So, I'm hiring a "baby"-sitter for them. Well, not really, but I'd like to. Anywho, do ladies have any ideas on how I can convince them?

miguelhilary2010

THE GROOM... he picked his buddies to be part of his big day, and he should be able to control them.  I've had similar conversations with FI and he completely agrees that they can't drink too much before, but can drink whatever they want in the 5 hours after!

Maybe the Gm dont realize how important this is to you, or have never witnessed a ceremony before.  Or, maybe they're just messing with you to get you riled up.

I would definitely assign FI to babysit.  Its his wedding too.

Ms.BriarRose

If they aren't taking it seriously, and really think it is a big joke, I would kick them out of the BP.  Seriously, if you are going to f*ck with my wedding, you don't have the right to be there.  I know, probably a little harsh.

Can you give them incentive to not do it, like giving them their gifts afterwards?  Or can FI talk to them?  Or better yet, have the mothers talk to them- let me tell ya, that will get the point across.

Sorry I am not of much help- I know my POV is way harsh, but I am paying too much money for everything for boys to go and mess it up by being drunk!

And this is why we are only having beer and wine (well, one of the reasons)...

ElizabethPine

I think I'll try the incentive idea. It's not that FI doesn't care, he just thinks his guys hold their liquor well and that they'll be fine. I'm sure they're just trying to get me going, but it makes me nervous. And I talked to MOH and she said she is going to take out anyone who gets out of line. LoL

Thanks for your help ladies!

Donnalynn

So do you really not trust them?  Do you think they're going to get smashed and stumble down the aisle? 

With us, I knew the boys would be drinking some beforehand, and I was fine with it.  Dave didn't drink, and that's all that mattered to me...I wanted him to remember our wedding ceremony! 

But if it's important to you, probably having FI talk to them seriously about it would be the best bet...

Santorini2011

Provide them with the alcohol....watered down by you.  They probably won't even notice.

MrsJax09

THEY ARE ADULTS! Guess what hun - you can't order them around. You can ask nicely and tell them why they should want to be sober, such as:

1. There will be about X number of people there. Do you want to make a @ss out of yourself infront of them all and embarris yourself and us - your friends?

2. Drinking prior to high stress (esp. if they dont eat) increases their risk of passing out. Just as the groomsman that turned 21 the night before my sister and BIL's wedding. Yeah...the bridesmaids ended up screaming at the groomsman behind him to catch and the priest and best man had to escort him to the back while she and BIL took flowers to Mary.

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In all, a lot of people joke about being super smashed the wedding day, but the truth is that everyone will be so busy that morning that it is not like they will have the time to sit and just drink. Finally, your FI is going to be the advocate here. these are "his guys" so he should set a standard and maintain some level of control.