RSVPs due

sep72fendr

Sooo today my RSVPs are due... and as you can see by my signature, I'm still waiting on 80 people. NOT HAPPY. Also, the ration of yeses:nos is quite disappointing. 2:1. I can't help but feel slightly disappointed by all my friends who won't be coming. Married ladies/people getting married before me: is this normal!?

Sad face.

KellyRVT

I haven't sent mine out yet, but I know several people this happened to as well. 

I would post something on FB as a reminder to your friends about returning them. And, don't underestimate the power of your mom and FMIL to rally the troups to get the RSVPS in. 

nnoble4

I would start having yours and his parents call people and remind them to RSVP today, and maybe also try to start getting yes/nos from those that haven't responded.  (Though, make sure the parents say that you'd still greatly appreciate the RSVP card to be sent).

allisonud

I agree, it is frustrating and disappointing when people decline.  My RSVPs are due on Friday, and I am waiting on 82 responses!  I got nervous today when one of my coworkers admitted that he never even got my invitation.  I hope that didn't happen to many other people.  Starting on Friday I will have my mother and MIL start making phone calls!

MissOwl

aww that really sucks. it happened to both of my friends who have gotten married in the past year. they were so annoyed. i mean, really, how hard is it to rsvp? 

if it were me, i'd start calling people over the weekend.

green795

Yes, it's totally normal. Because people aren't considerate enough to remember you have to tell your caterer how many to expect, print escort cards, do seating arrangements, etc. or they just flat out forgot. But that's not an excuse. 

I would say about 40% of our RSVPs came about 2 weeks after the RSVP date. To be safe, I made the RSVP date abut a month before the final count was due, so I wasn't too worried when we had so many that had not responded. After about 2 weeks after that I had 15 or so invites that didn't respond an that's when I started contacting them or having my elders contact them. Worked like a charm.

It's OK though - just start calling/facebooking people, or maybe it would be more effective of your parents to call their respective family members that didn't respond. 

buckeyesweetz

I am so happy to answer this post as a married lady now yay! It is annoying that people don't send rsvp's back on time, but just start calling (and recruit help) that's really all you can do. Don't let it stress you. Also, my yes/no response wasn't quite 2:1 but I still understand where you are coming from. I had quite a few friends that couldn't come, and many of those for very good reasons (just had babies, family obligations, etc) but it is still hard because of course you want everyone there. I promise you though you will not care the day of and you will have so much fun with your new husband and friends and family in attendance.

sep72fendr

Thanks for the words of encouragement ya'll. Sorry for the P&R earlier. I was just so stressed and couldn't even figure out who to vent to. So i vented to the knot void and sure enough, it echoed back. you all, you have no idea.

alinkchicka

Yea it is not fun!  Some people you expect to be there say no and it is not fun.  My advise tell your reception venue at least 15 people less than you expect.  We estimated 225 before we sent out invites, we got back rsvps and I still had to call like 50 families.  So the total count came out to be 250ish so I told my venue and they charged me like $3000 more.  Then at least 30 people that I can think of did not show up. so I wasted $3000.  You have to think that people are going to have problems, we had someone go into the hospital, another couples dog dies, another got the day mixed up and forgot, and soooooooooo many people did not bring a guest when they rsvped for one!!  Good luck!

alinkchicka

Ohh I forgot to say that we invited around 330 so it was really close to the 2:1 like yours.