My fh doesn't think that it is necessary to send out an invitation for the rehearsal dinner, and that word of mouth will be fine. I disagree because the priest and his wife need to be included, and I think it's just good manners although we're a laid back group. Did you send them? Also, since I will likely get my way and we'll do one, should I ask my fmil to use the same stationer as the wedding invitation? I would like it to match, but I wasn't sure what other do. I would plan on paying for them since it was my idea and it's important to me. FH thinks I'm being overly critical. I already have three designs going between my 1. STD and aunt's shower, 2. other shower (that fmil/fsil are throwing me) and 3. invitations, so I really don't want to introduce a fourth. Did the rehearsal dinner invites match your wedding invite stuff? Also, were your thank you notes for your shower different than your wedding thank you notes? If so, did you tie them in with the shower invite?