so. i was asked to compile a list of people that i would like to invite to my shower, since it is being thrown by one of FI's family members and they don't really know my family or who is who. anyway... i didn't include any out of state family members (especially ones that i am not close to, as in, i only talk to you at every other christmas when you come to town and visit)... now, i got a lot of flack about not wanting to send them an invite. i just felt uncomfortable... it was like "hi, i know i don't really ever talk to you except for once a year, and i know you'd never be able to make it out here for a two hour brunch two weeks before my wedding, but i still want you to know i'm having this party where people give me presents." i don't want people to feel like i want or need presents for them, seeing as we're not really close. am i nuts? i feel like maybe i am being perceived as nuts. what is the general etiquette with shower invites and out of town guests?