I am confused. Why is it considered acceptable to exclude children from being invited to a wedding by not listing their name on the invitation envelope but it is considered rude to put “Adult Reception” on the reception card?
I have been told that its rude to put “Adult Reception” on the reception card because it defines who is and isn’t invited to the reception. Well not listing children’s names on the wedding invitation also defines who is and isn’t invited.
Why is it considered such a faux pas to list “Adult Reception” on a reception card but considered perfectly acceptable to exclude children by just not listing them on the invitation envelope? Not listing the children’s names on the invitation envelopes AND putting “Adult Reception” on the reception cards would make it clear to parents that their children are not invited. Just leaving the children’s names off the invitation envelope and then saying nothing about an “Adult Reception” on the reception card will lead many people to think that the entire family is invited which then warrants a phone call from the bride or groom to uninvite the children which is far more rude in my opinion than doing what I described above.
Also why is it considered rude to invite some children but not all children? Isnt it up to the bride and groom who they want at their wedding? Everything I have read regarding the etiquette surrounding the children being invited/not invited situation says that you cant exclude some children and not others unless you exclude all children except those who actually take part in the wedding. Why is that?