Jr. Bridesmaid Seating and Reception Entrance

pzavecz

I am about to start working on my seating chart.  We are having a "king's table" so all of the bridal party and their SO's, and children (if they have any) at one big, long table.  I have a jr. BM who is 8 or 9 yo (I can't remember her exact age...oops).  Where should I seat her?  I have read on these boards before that typically you just seat the children WP members with their parents.  I think my jr. BM's parents would enjoy sitting with my parents more than sitting at the head table (they are my aunt and uncle).  Only thing I'm wondering is if it would look weird because the FG's will have to be at the head table since their dad is the BM.  Do you think it would look bad if I seat the jr. BM and their parents with my parents instead of the head table, since she will be the only one in the WP not sitting with everyone?  

Also, for the bridal party entrance into the reception, should I include my jr. bridesmaid in that?  My venue coordinator said that typically, for the weddings they have, the entrance just has the adult WP members.  I actually haven't been to a wedding where the young WP members were announced at the entrance so I wasn't sure what was typically done.  Also, she would probably have to come out all by herself since all the GM and BM's will be paired up.  Not sure if that would be really intimidating for her...  

What do you guys think? 

ETA: To clarify, if the FGs' dad wasn't in the WP, then I would not be seating them at the head table.  Also, the FGs will not be in the reception entrance.

lyndausvi

Yes i think it would look bad if she was not included.  I also think she should be introduced, especially if the FG is going to be.   You can always have a BM escort with her and another BM. (that's what we did with our younger WP members).

In your case I think I would forgo a king's table.  It just sounds too big and complicated.    

Is your FIL the BM?   I think I would either have a sweatheat table (although I'm not really a fan, but they do work in some situations) or sitting with both sets of parents.  Then have the WP at other tables.  

We actually sat our WP with people they would sit with if they were not in the WP.  It worked out well. 

catloverd

In my cousin's wedding, her jr bridesmaid sat next to the bridesmaids. Her mom was the maid of honor (she's my cousin's older sister). They didn't sit next to each other, but her brother sat next to her (he was one of the of the groomsmen). I think I would personally ask her what she wants to do. I wouldn't assume she'd feel left our or that she'd feel intimidated. I think you have to ask her. 

We are doing 3 seperate tables at our wedding instead of a one long big one since we wanted the bridesmaids and groomsmen to be able to sit with their spouses or partners. 

pzavecz

In Response to Re:Jr. Bridesmaid Seating and Reception Entrance:[QUOTE]Yes i think it would look bad if she was not included. nbsp;I also think she should be introduced, especially if the FG is going to be. nbsp; You can always have a BM escort with her and another BM. that's what we did with our younger WP members.In your case I think I would forgo a king's table. nbsp;It just sounds too big and complicated. nbsp; nbsp;Is your FIL the BM? nbsp; I think I would either have a sweatheat table although I'm not really a fan, but they do work in some situations or sitting with both sets of parents. nbsp;Then have the WP at other tables. nbsp;We actually sat our WP with people they would sit with if they were not in the WP. nbsp;It worked out well.nbsp; Posted by lyndausvi[/QUOTE]

The FGs won't be introduced.

Also, we really do not want to do a sweetheart table and don't want to sit with our parents.

libby2483

H's sister, who is 10, was a junior BM in our wedding.  We asked her if she would like to sit with her parents  or with the rest of the WP and she prefered to sit with the WP.  Also, she was very excited to start off the entrance into the reception.  My advice would be to just ask her where she prefers to sit and if she wants to be part of the entrance or not.

Summer2011Bride

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Jr. Bridesmaid Seating and Reception Entrance: The FGs won't be introduced. Also, we really do not want to do a sweetheart table and don't want to sit with our parents.
Posted by pzavecz[/QUOTE]

Regardless of whether the FGs are introduced, I think if the BMs are introduced, the junior BM should be introduced as well.. Or you could forego WP introductions altogether and just have you and H announced when you walk in.

If you want to keep the King's Table, I think the jr. BM should be included and just seat her and her parents there.

lyndausvi

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Jr. Bridesmaid Seating and Reception Entrance : Regardless of whether the FGs are introduced, I think if the BMs are introduced, the junior BM should be introduced as well.. Or you could forego WP introductions altogether and just have you and H announced when you walk in. If you want to keep the King's Table, I think the jr. BM should be included and just seat her and her parents there.
Posted by Summer2011Bride[/QUOTE]

<div>I agree.  She is 7/8 years old.  She will notice the snub, even if it's not intentional.</div><div>
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</div><div>I had 7 kids on my wedding.  I treated them the same as the adult WP members.</div>

ootmother2

Her feelings will be quite hurt if she's not announced.  It doesn't seem like a big deal to you but to a kid it is.

DramaGeek

Yup, if you skip either she will notice that she wasn't included.

Loopyseven

I think 8 or 9 is old enough to handle dinner at a table of adults not including her parents (as in, she doesn't need someone to help her cut up her food, or get her plate together if it's a buffet) so I would ask her if she'd like to sit with her parents (are any other cousins her age going to be there?) or with the rest of the WP.  I would include her in the entrance either solo leading everyone off, or as a trio with one of the BM's and a GM.

[Deleted User]

Can't help you with the seating dilemna, as it made me dizzy. But, I think she should be introduced at the wedding. I think all members of the Wedding Party should be introduced, regardless of age. 

Jen4948

I would introduce her but have a consultation with her parents as to where she sits.  If they don't object to her not sitting with them, then I'd let her sit with the bridal party if she likes.