I have a friend who is getting married and is having trouble planning her wedding. Things seem to be revolving entirely around her dress/attire. She has every detail nailed but hasn't done anything about food/music/drinks/etc. I've asked her gently about other plans but she isn't really interested. Several people have offered to help her and we've given her checklists, etc to help also.
The event will be reception only as the ceremony is days prior and private. The reception will be at brunch-time (sans food and with a cash bar), no DJ or dancing (maybe Ipod speakers). Meanwhile, she is wearing a high end ball-gown, fur stole, etc. Now, I know it's her day and she should feel special, however the thought of attending a food-less, beverage-less, music-less reception makes me not want to go. The couple is also quite cash strapped and, sadly, she spent 75% of their original budget on her dress. So they are already over budget on the few things they have planned. So up-sizing on food, etc will be hard.
How can I help her focus on the guests more? I want the day to be special, but it feels like it's going to be a dud. How can I bring this up tactfully? I tried subtle and got no where. Should I just stay out of it?