An old coworker of mine were close three years ago! I sent him a STD 6 months ago (and now regret it) We no longer work together and he really let me down before I was promoted. I was not planning on inviting him to the wedding because not only do we not talk now, but I know it could not hurt me professionally in any way. FI and I finalized the guest list, wrote the invitations, and sent (almost all of them...we ran out of stamps 8 short) yesterday.
I was visiting an old coworker today and he randomly walked in and like we've been talking all the time told me about his "new fiancee" (that he met on instagram a month and a half ago and has never met in person...but the text all day every day so it's okay) He also said how he WAS planning on bringing his best friend but now he'll bring this guy. (When I was planning on inviting him I was not giving him a plus one) So now, I didn't allot a spot for him in the final guest list AND he brought up bringing a guest (which I know it's not my place to say how serious they are) but I didn't want to invite him AT ALL!
I don't know what to do. Although I don't really care about the relationship, I am SO bad at confrontation AND I hate hurting people's feelings. But spending close to $250 to not hurt his feelings doesn't seem worth it to me, especially when there are people who both FI and I like A LOT more (FI and this guy have never gotten along) and think would add to our special day. I feel like this guy just wants to come for the open bar/free food and to have a chance to get dressed up and pretty. I just don't know what to say/how to go about it.