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TakenByHin

Ok ladies I heard the newest this asking for money gifts. So nobody buys you two of one item for a wedding gift or something you don't want. If I would go about doing this how do you ask without sounding crass? Do you put it in the invitations or what? I'm just a little lost with alot of the new wedding ideas.

xcalygrl

You don't ask for gifts, money or otherwise.

brittany634

Please don't it's extremely rude to ask for cash gifts. If you want cash, make a smaller registry and people will get the hint, or buy you whatever they think is appropriate, but PLEASE do not ask for cash.

thurmanpowell

Don't register for anything and hope your guests get the hint (which at least some of them will).

Edie Bee

In Response to A to know how this work but I don't know if I want to do it or not:

Ok ladies I heard the newest this asking for money gifts. So nobody buys you two of one item for a wedding gift or something you don't want. If I would go about doing this how do you ask without sounding crass? Do you put it in the invitations or what? I'm just a little lost with alot of the new wedding ideas.
Posted by TakenByHin

If you want cash instead of gifts, create a very small registry and if people ask you, tell them you are saving up for a honeymoon, or a house, or whatever.

I hope I answered your question.  It was a little hard to read.

Do NOT put it in the invitations.

Peledreamsofrain

Hitting people up for cash is against etiquette, and there's no polite way to do it.  Some people feel extremely uncomfortable with giving monetary gifts, and always give physical ones.

Create a very small registry, people will get the hint.

Joy2611

What?

How do you think you kindly say "Uncle Pete, just drop me a check for $50!"


Answer: YOU DON'T.  My freaking entitled God.

StephJean83

This makes me laugh because I know a guy who said that when he gets married in 10 yrs, he is only registering for cash, which you can bring with you or he will accept your credit card at the door. He will have 5 Asian Elvis' acting as security and will not allow anyone in who doesn't give him money. I know the guy is saying this in jest but if someone didn't know him, they probably would think what he was saying was perfectly ok.

Never ever ask for gifts, whether it is cash or physical gift. If you have everything you could possible need or you want to save up for a house or whatever, have a small registry or no registry. People who WANT to give you a gift will either ask what you need, this is when you can say, "FI and I have everything really need but we are saving for X[insert whatever you are saving for]", they will get the hint you'd rather get cash OR they will go the store, find something they think you'd love and buy it.

s-aries8990

Create a small registry (if any) and tell family and friends that ask that you are saving for a (insert goal here, house, honeymoon, rennovations, etc). Enlist parents and WP members to use this answer when they're asked.

AddieL73

As everyone has said, you can't ask for any gifts. If you create a small registry, you might be more likely to get cash, but that's not 100% certain. We had a small registry, and we got some stuff off that, some cash, a few things not even on the registry as well as several gift cards to restaurants (which are like cash, I realize, but good only at that restaurant). 

Peledreamsofrain

In Response to Re: A to know how this work but I don't know if I want to do it or not:

This makes me laugh because I know a guy who said that when he gets married in 10 yrs, he is only registering for cash, which you can bring with you or he will accept your credit card at the door. He will have 5 Asian Elvis' acting as security and will not allow anyone in who doesn't give him money. I know the guy is saying this in jest but if someone didn't know him, they probably would think what he was saying was perfectly ok. Never ever ask for gifts, whether it is cash or physical gift. If you have everything you could possible need or you want to save up for a house or whatever, have a small registry or no registry. People who WANT to give you a gift will either ask what you need, this is when you can say, "FI and I have everything really need but we are saving for X[insert whatever you are saving for]", they will get the hint you'd rather get cash OR they will go the store, find something they think you'd love and buy it.
Posted by StephJean83

Good advice, but I have to slightly disagree with just leaving out registries altogether.

As I mentioned, some people WILL get physical gifts, because they aren't comfortable with cash gifts.  If you don't have at least a couple of items on your registry, then they are left to either ask, or more likely, think creatively.  This is  a good way to end up with wacky stuff you don't need, or 5 toasters.

CMGr

If I received a wedding invitation asking for money as a gift, I would go out and buy the ugliest ceramic rooster I could find.  Don't put this in your invitation.

Cortney1982

Why don't you make a small registry of items you want?  You never ask for cash. 

msmerymac

The way to avoid getting duplicate items is to create a gift registry.

Loopyseven

In Response to Re: A to know how this work but I don't know if I want to do it or not:

I agree with all of the above - create a small registry for people to get the hint that you would like cash.  There also are websites out there to register for your honeymoon.  It's basically a paypal account for cash, but people feel like they are contributing to specific honeymoon-related events (ie spa treatment).  Note of warning that many people have mixed feelings about this and some may find it offensive.  YOU NEVER ASK FOR GIFTS!
Posted by Jager1219

Honeymoon registries are essentially the same as asking for cash.  And some people don't realize that there are fees involved so the couple doesn't even get the whole amount of the gift.  Don't ask for cash, in any way/shape or form.

RetreadBride

Registry/gift information never goes into a wedding invitation.

It's a faux pas to ask for money, or for a form of money (honeymoon or house registry).

TakenByHin

Thank all you ladies for your help. I just didn't understand these new ideas that are being put out there. If I get more than one toaster then I guess when one breaks down I will have one to replace it. You ladies are great and thanks again!!