So I have an honest question that I am really not sure about. I certainly want honest opinions, but would prefer this to not sink into the negativity that has plagued many recent threads. So my problem is I got caught up in the moment looking at spaces for our reception and when one I loved had one date left open for the summer, my FI and I signed on the dotted line before our guest list was fully confirmed. Fast forward to the sending of our STD... FMIL has added family friends we did not account for on our unconfirmed list, such as neighbors, coworkers and golf buddies. This stretched our guest list to over capacity for the venue and It made me too nervous to follow the arbitrary 10 wont come rule and inviting more than it can hold, because all I think is what if they did all RSVP yes and there isn't room! So basically FI and I had to make a few cuts of college friends that we wanted there but aren't super close to. My question is, what do we do when people get our std and tell us from that they won't be able to make it. I know its not a response to the formal invitation and nowhere on the std is an RSVP or anything obviously, but I still had an uncle call me and tell me his family has already booked a vacation so they can't make it. My question is, knowing this, can I send an invitation to friends I previously cut that I now have room for? They have no idea they were originally cut from the list and they would get their invite the same time as everyone else. They just would not have gotten a std. I would think that would be ok since etiquette wise std isn't traditional anyways, but I am still unsure. And if so, I assume I should also still send a formal invite to my uncles family so that he may formally rsvp, correct? Thanks in advance for any clarification!
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? J.M. Barrie