Groom here. How are you? This is a long story, so bear with me...
SHORT VERSION: Mother of bride is dating an abusive guy who has insulted/threatened the bride and groom just this year, therefore he is not invited to the wedding.
The sister of the bride has stolen thousands of dollars from the bride in the past, and claimed she didn't "owe a damn thing" to the bride, the bride even recently lent her under $200 for a bridesmaid dress that she said she would pay back by end of November, but now when asked politely about when to expect the money, the bride is told to "don't get an attitude."
The mother of the bride and the sister of the bride are now guilting the bride (and groom) because we are not inviting the abusive boyfriend guy to the wedding. It's adding a LOT of stress to what is supposed to be "our day." They're saying nasty things to the bride like the bride has "changed" or has been changed by me, the groom, or maybe even suggesting that I'm manipulating her or something, which is ridiculous.
We feel that it's at a point now where the mother is causing so much stress and heartache that the mother should be informed that if this doesn't let up soon and if she doesn't respect our wishes to not have her abusive boyfriend there, then they should BOTH enjoy the day together, away from us.
What should we do? The mother of the bride is causing so much stress with her drama and selfishness. I've had it.